Sometimes, even when someone’s trying to be polite, their true feelings sneak through. If you have a sense that someone isn’t fully enjoying your company, there are little hints that could confirm it. Here are 15 telltale signs that someone may not be as excited about spending time with you as you’d hoped.
1. They Don’t Follow Up After You Hang Out
If you hang out and then hear nothing from them afterward, it’s a strong signal that they weren’t all that invested. People who genuinely enjoy your company will usually send a follow-up text or reference something from your time together. Silence afterward isn’t a great sign.
2. Their Body Language Is Closed Off
Body language can reveal more than words. If they’re crossing their arms, sitting back, or seem tense, it’s a sign they’re not as comfortable. When people enjoy being around you, they naturally relax and lean in. Closed-off posture? Probably not a great vibe.
3. They Avoid Eye Contact
Not making eye contact is a dead giveaway. If they’re always looking away or seem physically distant, it’s likely because they’re not fully present. When someone’s into hanging out, they’ll make eye contact and be more engaged physically—even if it’s just subtle.
4. They Keep the Conversation Light and Superficial
If your talks never go beyond small talk, that could be intentional. When someone is genuinely interested, they won’t just stay on surface-level topics—they’ll ask meaningful questions and go deeper. Sticking to safe, light topics often means they’re not looking to connect.
5. They’re Constantly Checking Their Phone
Mid-conversation, they’re scrolling, checking notifications, or glancing around. If they’re not focused on you, it might mean they’re not really invested. When someone enjoys being around you, they give you their attention. Distractions are a sign they might be wishing they were somewhere else.
6. They Seem Bored While You’re Talking
If they’re constantly zoning out or giving you a lot of “uh-huhs” without any real engagement, they’re probably not into it. People who enjoy your company are curious and ask questions. If you feel like you’re talking to a wall, they’re likely not that interested.
7. They Don’t Mention Hanging Out Again
People who had a great time will often hint at doing it again. If they end the hangout without mentioning the next time you’ll get together, it’s possible they’re not as eager. When people are excited, they’ll naturally bring up the next time.
8. They Give Short, One-Word Replies
Getting a lot of “yeah,” “sure,” or “I guess” responses? That’s usually a red flag. When someone enjoys your company, they’ll engage in conversation and keep things flowing. If you’re carrying the entire discussion, they’re likely not feeling it.
9. They Don’t Seem to Remember Details You’ve Shared
People who care will remember key details about you. If they consistently forget things you’ve told them, whether it’s your job or hobbies, it’s a clue they’re not invested. Remembering details shows they value what you say—forgetting them shows the opposite.
10. They’re Always “Too Busy” to Make Plans
If they’re forever swamped, that might be their polite way of keeping things distant. People make time for those they enjoy being with. If they’re consistently “busy,” it could be that they’re avoiding making plans without having to say it outright.
11. They Don’t Crack a Smile at Your Jokes
You don’t need to be a stand-up comedian, but if they’re not even cracking a smile, it’s a sign they’re not vibing with you. People who enjoy your company will at least share a laugh or two, even if you’re just mildly funny. If they’re completely unamused, they might not be enjoying themselves.
12. They Don’t Show Any Curiosity About You
If they’re not asking questions about your life, that’s a sign they’re not genuinely interested in getting to know you. People who enjoy spending time with you will ask questions, learn more about you, and care about your answers. A lack of curiosity signals indifference.
13. They Don’t Lean in or Engage Physically
Body language tells you a lot. If they’re always sitting back, keeping distance, or avoiding eye contact, it’s a sign they’re not fully comfortable. When someone enjoys your company, they naturally lean in and engage physically—even subtly.
14. They Act Tired When They’re Around You
If they’re always yawning or acting low-energy, it’s a sign they’re not really enjoying the time you’re spending together. People who enjoy themselves will seem more alert and engaged, not drained or ready to call it a day.
15. You’re Always the One Reaching Out
If you’re the one who always initiates plans, that could mean they’re not as interested. When people enjoy being around you, they’ll occasionally take the initiative, too. If you’re always the one reaching out, they may just be passively going along.
