15 Things Guaranteed To Turn Men Off, According To A Guy

I don’t presume to know everything about women, but I do know that there are a lot of things guys do that completely turn women off. The same is true in reverse! Even if a guy is super-attracted to you physically, you can still completely put him off with your behavior. Here are some of the things that could ruin your chance with him.

  1. Lying I feel like this is universal when it comes to things that bother people about potential partners. I mean, nobody likes a liar, right? You might think you’re telling harmless little fibs but it still bothers us. The worst is when it’s obvious that you’re lying but you keep on doing it. Honesty really is the best policy, especially when it comes to successful relationships.
  2. Faking it Being fake goes hand in hand with lying. For the record, I’m not saying men don’t do this as well, but there are so many things women can fake, from their online dating pictures to their personalities. Guys hate it when women pretend to be something they’re not just to get attention. Just be yourself because you’re amazing just as you are.
  3. Non-stop phone time At this point, I honestly don’t think I need to mention this, but there are still women who spend way too much time on their phones while on a date. Particularly if it’s early in the relationship, your focus should be on getting to know each other. It’s a total turn-off for a guy if he can’t get a woman’s attention because she’s consumed by her phone.
  4. Too much social media use While there are some positives with social media, most guys get turned off by women who use it too much and take it too seriously. We don’t need every detail of the relationship posted on your Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, etc. Also, most guys hate it when you think everything that’s posted on social media means something. Not everything is a sign. For most of us, social media is just a way to distract ourselves. It’s a turn-off when women take it too seriously.
  5. Taking selfies It really gets under a guy’s skin when he’s with someone who won’t stop taking selfies. It’s just as bad as being on the phone or social media constantly. If we’re on a date, we’re supposed to be enjoying each other’s company, not posing for a thousand pictures. It’s beyond annoying when that’s all a woman wants to do.
  6. Playing games Yes, I will admit that there are some guys out there who also play games. But those guys are rarely going to take you seriously in the first place. If you want to have a real relationship with a guy, don’t play games. If you do, he’s going to get frustrated and turned off in a hurry.
  7. Not showing appreciation Much like you ladies, men love when they feel appreciated. We like compliments just as much as you. Most of us are putting in the effort and would like that effort acknowledged. Even if we like you, if a guy feels like he’s not being appreciated, he’ll get a little turned off.
  8. Talking trash Come on, ladies, we’re not in middle school anymore. There’s no reason to talk trash about other women, your friends, the women a guy has dated in the past, or anyone really. In fairness, it’s a rather small percentage of women who do this, but when all you want to do is belittle and gossip about others, it doesn’t make for a good conversation and it’s just not a good look.
  9. Getting too drunk Alcohol can help people relax and have a good time. Honestly, it’s hard to imagine the early stages of dating without it. But there’s a fine line between getting tipsy in a fun way and getting way too drunk. The latter makes us feel like we’re taking care of a child, which is a major turn-off.
  10. Checking out other guys I don’t think I have to explain myself here. If you’re on a date with a guy, don’t check out other dudes or comment on how handsome someone else is. I know it doesn’t always seem like it, but men have fragile egos. We can’t handle you eyeing up other guys right in front of us.
  11. Lacking confidence I can’t stress how much men are attracted to confident women. It’s such a turn-on when it’s clear that you’re comfortable in your own skin. Naturally, the opposite is true as well. When it’s clear that a woman is insecure, it’s easy for a guy to lose interest.
  12. Being too clingy Yes, it’s good to be close to someone and involved in their life, but men aren’t the sun and you aren’t a planet that revolves around us. Being too clingy is one of the best ways to turn a guy off. Most of us just can’t handle it when a woman acts too clingy, nor do we like it.
  13. Being jealous Jealousy is an ugly color to wear regardless of your gender. It’s natural to feel it in a relationship, but we need to do our best to be mature and work past it so that it doesn’t affect our relationships. When women are acting jealous, it translates to a lack of trust, which is a good way to turn a man off.
  14. Comparing men to one another This is high on the list of things that men hate. Specifically, we hate when a woman we’re dating compares us to her ex. But any form of comparing us to other women makes us think that we’re not good enough for you, which doesn’t feel good. It also turns off our interest in you.
  15. Being self-obsessed Again, this one probably doesn’t require much explanation. Yes, dating is about getting to know the other person, but that doesn’t mean you ladies should be talking about yourself all the time. We can talk about other topics. When a woman can’t help but act as if the whole world revolves around her, it’s a huge turn off for guys, no matter how physically attractive she might be.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.