If there’s one thing an independent girl refuses to give up, it’s her independence. While these types of women may be seen as intimidating or cold, they’re often just misunderstood by men who are looking for a woman that can feed their ego. An independent woman is looking for a man that is as secure as she is – a man that knows the difference between wanting and needing another person. There’s a certain type of man that can date an independent woman, but if he’s doing any of these things, the relationship is not likely to last long.
Asking her to hang out every day.
We will survive if we don’t see you every day. We’d even be okay if we had to spend a week apart. But the second you try to take up all our time and not give us our space when we need it, we’re going to feel smothered. And there’s nothing we hate more than that.
Getting upset when she travels alone.
We crave new experiences and adventure, we like being alone with our own thoughts and we are comfortable striking up a conversation even when we don’t know a single person in another country. These are qualities an independent girl values about herself. And if you try and throw her down for them, you can kiss her goodbye.
We’ve likely been on our own for a while. We can fend for ourselves. We’re looking for a partner, not a second father.
Making her feel guilty when she takes a day to herself.
Sometimes we just want a day to ourselves. Don’t be offended if we choose a night in with Netflix over seeing you. It has nothing to do with how we feel about you and everything to do with how we feel about ourselves. We value our alone time and, heck, sometimes we absolutely need it.
Trying to do everything for her.
We can change our own light bulb, carry our own groceries and drive ourselves, thank you very much.
We are going to talk to who we want and hang out with who we want. We want to be trusted and the last thing we need is an insecure man who makes us constantly check in with them or interrogates us like we’re at a job interview.
Telling her she can’t do something.
We’re sorry, but we don’t recall asking for permission.
Taking her away from her family or friends.
When you weren’t around, family and friends were our everything. We’re not about to give that up. We value our relationships with the people who are important to us. Even when we have a boyfriend, we still need time for the ones who have been there since day one.
Wanting to come everywhere with her.
We are perfectly comfortable going out to get food alone. We can attend a wedding without a date. And we don’t need you to be our body guard every time we go out dancing with friends.
Putting down her hobbies.
You don’t have to like our hobbies or even take part in them, but you better respect them. There’s no bigger turnoff than a man who discourages you and can’t support what you’re passionate about.
Needing constant reassurance.
We need a man who can be secure about our relationship even if we don’t make you feel needed all the time. The truth is, we don’t need We’re completely fine on our own. What’s important is that we actually want you.
Paying all the time.
You know we work too, right?
Not having a life outside of her.
We know there are three aspects to a relationship- the me, the you and the us. We like a man who knows how to take care of the ‘you’. We want you to have your own hobbies, take a weekend trip with the guys and do things for yourself once in a while.
Being too traditional when it comes to gender roles.
We can pay for our own dinner, put together our own piece of furniture and even work after giving birth.
Moving too fast.
We didn’t get this independent overnight. We’re likely used to being on our own and it may take a little while for us to get used to having someone else around. We are secure enough on our own that we don’t need someone to tell us they love us on the second date, we don’t need to meet your parents tomorrow and we aren’t going to move in with you next week.
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