Do you ever sit and think about what makes someone good dating material — what makes them worth talking to beyond the first meeting? Sure, everyone has their own particular qualities they’re looking for in a potential partner, but some things are pretty universal, and if you’ve got these, you instantly become more dateable:
- A house. It’s sad but true. Having your own home does make a huge difference in how dateable you are in the eyes of many. It’s a sign of stability for most and shows that you’ve got your act together on the highest level (or at least the most obvious one). Unfortunately, having a house also might make some people try to date you solely because of the fact that they need a place to stay.
- Friends. Friends are a sign that a person isn’t a completely appalling human being. No one wants to be with someone who has no friends, because that means that they’re all the person will have — and could be a red flag that there’s something seriously wrong with them.
- A career. Want to know what most people can’t stand to be around? Someone who has no way of contributing to monthly bills, no motivation to become someone new, and no accomplishments to speak of. Careers show people that you actually want to go somewhere and do something. If you lack that motivation, you’re basically asking your significant other to do all the work to keep you both afloat.
- A positive attitude. You attract more flies with honey. This is the Catch-22 of dating. It’s a lot easier to be positive when you’re with someone already. Argh!
- A good body. It’s not fair, at all, but it’s true. Sadly, we live in a world where packaging counts more than personality. Most men like girls who are slim to average in build, so if you want to improve your chances, you’ll most likely have to stop those late night snack sessions — or say “Screw it!” and wait for a guy who knows to look beyond appearances and appreciates yours as-is.
- Hobbies. Hobbies actually do make you more dateable, even if it’s something as nerdy as playing Munchkin. Having interests and passions show that you have interests outside of just getting laid, and they also can provide an awesome conversation topics during a date.
- Intelligence. If there’s one way to guarantee that you won’t get a second date, it’s to say something idiotic that makes your date look bad. Intelligence is extremely attractive — as long as you’re humble about it. After all, being smart enough to discuss a variety of different topics makes for a great first date, as well as an amazing first impression.
- Tolerance. Though you shouldn’t tolerate bad behavior, a little bit of tolerance towards differences can make you a much better partner.
- Goals. A person without goals isn’t going to be able to offer much in terms of a relationship. Just coasting through life with no idea where you want to go isn’t a good course of action.
- Manners. When it comes to gaining points in the dating world, few things impress as much as a person’s ability to stay polite while also dealing with the douchebaggery that comes with the dating territory. Though it might not be what comes to mind at first thought, how you handle yourself can really make or break your chances with a person.
- Cooking skills. The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Oddly enough, most girls also prefer to date guys who can cook, as well.
- Dance skills. Someone who can tear up the dance floor is usually a guy who can tear up the bedroom as well. There’s a reason why so many people end up wanting to date dancers, and it has a lot to do with how sexy they look when they’re on the floor.
- A good sense of fashion. If you know how to dress for your body type, you’ll look better every day. A snappy sense of style is a quick, easy way to gain more dating points.
- A sense of humor. Both men and women love to laugh. Being a jokester can get you serious points.
- Standards. No one wants to be someone else’s last resort. Having standards makes people feel better about your choice to be with them.
