Self-absorbed people have a way of making every conversation about themselves. They steer the discussion back to their own lives and problems, using predictable phrases and humblebrags that make it clear they’re the center of their own universe. From self-centered complaints to constant attempts to one-up everyone, these phrases are dead giveaways that you’re dealing with someone who’s more interested in talking about themselves than listening to anyone else.
1. “I/me/mine…”
Someone who’s always talking about themselves? It gets old fast! They’re probably not even trying to be rude, just focused on sharing their world. But real conversation is a two-way street, it’s about connecting. Try gently changing the subject to something more general or asking about the other person.
2. “Let me tell you about MY experience…”
They just can’t resist one-upping your story with a similar tale about themselves that’s obviously way more impressive. It’s like they have a compulsive need to steal the spotlight. Try shutting it down with a simple “That’s interesting!” and then change the subject. You’re not obligated to be their captive audience, so don’t let them hijack the conversation with their constant need to prove they’re the main character in every story.
3. “You wouldn’t understand.”
People who always one-up your struggles can be pretty frustrating. It feels like they’re dismissing your feelings, but don’t let it get you down. Maybe they’re not the best shoulder to cry on, but that doesn’t mean your feelings aren’t valid. Keep sharing with people who might understand better – even a little support makes a difference!
4. “Back when I was…”
Be ready for some long stories about the good ol’ days. Just nod politely and say something like, “Sounds like you had some crazy times!” If it goes on and on, feel free to change the subject – sometimes a simple “Anyway…” or asking them about something else works well.
5. “Honestly, people are SO jealous of me.”
Someone bragging about being the target of jealousy is designed to make you feel less-than. Whether they actually believe it or just need the ego boost, don’t let it get to you. Keep things neutral – a simple “oh?” or a slightly confused “really?” takes the wind out of their sails. Don’t validate their bragging or get pulled into their drama,
6. “Do you know who I am?”
This move is all about puffed-up ego and trying to make you feel small. Don’t get flustered. A calm, slightly confused, “No, should I?” totally shuts it down. It forces them to actually say their name, which honestly, is usually not that impressive.
7. Anything that focuses on themselves
Asking about YOU? Nope. They’ll talk AT you for hours, then act surprised when you need to escape. Listening takes effort, and that’s not their forte. Set boundaries and hold onto them for dear life. Politely excuse yourself when you need a break with a simple “I’m so sorry, I have to run!”
8. “Oh no, I totally forgot about [something that’s important to you.”
Birthday? Promotion? They might feign ignorance, making it all about how they felt when they “realized” they missed it. Don’t expect heartfelt apologies — you’ll need to lower your expectations. If these moments are truly important, celebrate with people who actually remember and care.
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9. “Let me give you a bit of advice…”
They’re experts on everything, at least in their own minds. Your way of doing things is probably wrong, and they’re graciously here to fix that. A simple “Thanks, I’ll consider that,” lets them feel heard while letting you do things your own way. Don’t feel obligated to take their unsolicited advice.
10. “Is it really that big of a deal?”
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“Oh, you’re stressed? Try having MY workload!” People with zero self-awareness love to minimize everyone else’s problems. They can’t let you have the spotlight, even when you’re struggling. That’s because in their minds, your issues are never as serious as theirs. Don’t let this invalidate your feelings. Seek support from friends or family who will offer empathy, not competition.
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11. “I never wanted this award, but I guess I had to accept it.”
Is there anything worse than someone who brags and tries to cover it up with false humility? They crave validation and want you to provide it, even if they pretend otherwise. Don’t feed the beast. Let their humblebrag fall flat with a simple “Okay,” then move on.
12. Anything exaggerated
Had a bad day? Theirs was apocalyptic. Their accomplishments are groundbreaking, their struggles epic. A little drama makes life more exciting, at least for them. Take their exaggerations with a grain of salt and instead focus on the reality of the situation rather than their inflated version of events.
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13. “You’re so lucky to know me.”
Ugh, some people act like you should feel honored just to be breathing the same air as them. That level of arrogance needs a little reality check. If they’re dishing out the attitude, hit ’em with a playful “Feeling’s mutual!” and a big grin. Leave them wondering if you mean it, or if you’re subtly giving them a taste of their own medicine.
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