15 Ways To Start A Conversation That Beat “How Are You?”

15 Ways To Start A Conversation That Beat “How Are You?”

When you’re trying to strike up a conversation with someone, whether it’s a crush, a colleague, or a new friend, you’re probably tempted to start with your standard “how are you?” Obviously, it’s nice to inquire about how someone is doing, but it’s a little bit boring and really basic. It also doesn’t really invite much of a response other than “okay, you?” Here are some questions you can ask instead that are a little more exciting.

1. “What’s Something Interesting That Happened to You Today?”

This is a great way to encourage someone to share a story, rather than give a one-word answer. When you ask this, you’re inviting them to highlight a part of their day that stood out, which can be anything from a funny incident, a random observation, or even a small achievement. It makes the conversation more dynamic right from the start, moving away from routine responses.

2. “Have You Read Any Good Books Lately?”

This question isn’t just about finding out what they’re reading; it opens up a whole world of discussion about interests, ideas, and opinions. Books often reflect personal tastes and can lead to conversations about favorite genres, authors, and what they like or don’t like in a story. It’s a great way to get insights into their personality and possibly find mutual interests.

3. “What’s Your Favorite Way to Spend the Weekend?”

This is a fantastic ice-breaker because it’s casual yet personal. It allows the other person to talk about what they enjoy doing in their free time, which could range from outdoor adventures to binge-watching shows. It’s also a window into how they like to relax and unwind, which can reveal a lot about their lifestyle and priorities. (By the way, if you’re struggling with coming up with things to talk about, visit our sister site, Sweetn. They have some great tips and tricks for how to up your game when looking for love. Check it out here.)

4. “Have You Seen Any Good Movies or Shows Recently?”

Discussing movies or TV shows is often a hit because it’s a topic most people have something to say about. Whether they’re into action movies, love dramas, or are fans of a specific series, it’s a topic that can get people animated and enthusiastic. Plus, it can be a great source for your own watch list and can lead to plans for movie nights or binge-watching sessions together.

5. “What’s the Best Piece of Advice You’ve Ever Received?”

This is a thought-provoking question that can reveal a lot about a person’s values and life philosophy. It allows them to share wisdom that’s meaningful to them, and you might even learn something valuable from it. It’s a question that often leads to insightful and meaningful dialogue.

6. “What’s the Best Meal You’ve Had Recently?”

Food is a universal topic. Asking about someone’s recent best meal can lead to talking about favorite restaurants, recipes, and cuisines. It’s a conversation starter that’s sure to get a mouth-watering response.

7. “What’s Something You’re Looking Forward To?”

This question shifts the focus to positive future plans or events, which can be more uplifting than the standard “How are you?” It invites the other person to share something they’re excited about, whether it’s a personal goal, an upcoming event, or a new hobby.

8. “Do You Have Any Pets?”

Pets are often like family, and most pet owners love talking about their furry friends. Asking about pets can lead to sharing photos and stories, making for a warm and friendly conversation.

9. “What’s Your Idea of a Perfect Day?”

This question invites someone to describe what they enjoy most and what makes them happy. It’s a fun and imaginative way to start a conversation and can reveal a lot about what the person values and enjoys.

10. “Are You Working on Any Personal Projects?”

Asking about personal projects shows that you’re interested in their passions and hobbies outside of work. It’s a question that gives them the opportunity to talk about what they’re passionate about and what keeps them busy in their free time.

11. “What’s Your Favorite Memory from Childhood?”

Asking someone about their favorite childhood memory can lead to heartwarming and often amusing stories. It’s a great way to understand more about their background and the experiences that shaped them. Plus, it usually brings up nostalgic feelings, making the conversation feel more personal and intimate.

12. “If You Could Travel Anywhere, Where Would You Go?”

This question not only reveals their travel interests but also a bit about their aspirations and dreams. It can lead to discussions about different cultures, past travel experiences, or future travel plans. It’s a fun and imaginative topic that can get quite exciting and inspiring.

13. “What’s a Skill You’ve Always Wanted to Learn?”

This question is a gateway to talking about hobbies, aspirations, and maybe even life goals. It’s engaging and can show their adventurous side, or perhaps a more contemplative, intellectual aspect. It also opens up the possibility of sharing experiences about skills you’ve both learned or want to learn.

14. “What’s Something You’re Really Proud of?”

Asking someone what they’re proud of gives them a chance to share their achievements or milestones. It’s a positive, uplifting question that can reveal what they value most in their life. Plus, it shows that you’re interested in celebrating their successes, which is a great way to build rapport.

15. “What Kind of Music Gets You Through a Tough Day?”

This question is about more than just music tastes; it’s about understanding what comforts them or gives them strength. It can lead to a deeper conversation about emotions, coping mechanisms, and personal resilience. Plus, you might find some common ground in the artists or genres you both enjoy.

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Originally from Australia, Emma Mills graduated from the University of Queensland with a dual degree in Philosophy and Applied Linguistics before moving to Los Angeles to become a professional matchmaker (a bit of a shift, obviously). Since 2015, she has helped more than 150 people find lasting love and remains passionate about bringing amazing singletons together.

Emma is also the author of the upcoming Hachette publication, "Off the Beaten Track: Finding Lasting Love in the Least Likely of Places," due out in January 2025.
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