The 16 Biggest Mistakes Women Make in Bed

We might think we run the world with our womanly whiles, but that doesn’t mean we always make the best decisions in the bedroom. Here are some common and totally avoidable mistakes than can improve your sex life dramatically.

  1. Not saying what we want. You probably fill him in on your food preferences, movie preferences, and preferences about any other variable out there, so…
  2. Pretending like we don’t have feelings when we do. Sometimes we sleep with people who we don’t want to fall for, but if the potential is there, we’re already playing with fire.
  3. Faking orgasms. If you’re really just ready for it to be over say so. Faking it reinforces the wrong moves and essentially it’s a form of lying…that can come back to haunt you big time.
  4. Being overly shy. We’re all adults here, so there’s no reason you should be hesitating to try something new in bed if you’re into it.
  5. Thinking too much. Don’t wait until you’re horizontal to start overanalyzing the state of your relationship. Distracted minds do not make for great orgasms, ladies.
  6. Pretending to be more experienced than we are. Sometimes, in an effort to be sexy, a lady will do her best sex star impression… and give away her inexperience with it. It’s way more appealing to be honest. If you haven’t tried something before, he’ll be happy to teach you all about it.
  7. Imparting meaning where it doesn’t need to be. Just because he did something new with his tongue doesn’t mean that he’s cheating on you.
  8. Not initiating sex. Every guy will appreciate a sexual approach, and if he’s not in the mood then who cares.
  9. Worrying about how we look. When you’re naked in front of him he is not noticing that your mascara is smudged or that you gained a pound since the last time you two had sex.
  10. Being bored. Good sex is impossible to be boring, so if you’re bored it’s time to take things into your hands and shake things up until you’re not bored anymore.
  11. Skipping period sex. Nothing a towel can’t fix. Assuming both parties are on board, period sex can be just as fun as the rest of the month. Plus, orgasms help take care of cramps and they’re a lot more fun than popping Advil.
  12. Rushing. Don’t assume that he’s just trying to finish up and be done with it. If anything, slowing him down should actually be the intention. Men love tantalizing fluttery neck kisses as much as you do.
  13. Being quiet. No one should be faking moans and groans, but why not just let it out if it’s there? Being vocal during sex lets him know what’s working without having to spell it out, and it can also help ground you in your body to really experience what’s happening.
  14. Not giving oral sex. Somewhere along the way, some women picked up the belief that giving head is hard, or a burden, or even a little degrading. But the flip side to that is that it’s the empowering way to intimately making your man come. Men love enthusiasm.
  15. Assuming it’s more casual for him. Anyone can want casual sex and anyone can want to connect intimately through sex, and we know how making meritless assumptions about such things can backfire.
  16. Skipping the sense of humor. Sex at its best is still messy and full of unexpected hair pulls and noises from below. But it’s that way for everyone, so what can you do besides laugh it off?
Kate Ferguson is a Los Angeles local and freelance writer for a variety of blog and magazine genres. When she's not writing, the UC Davis graduate is focused on pursuits of the entertainment industry, spin class, and hot sauce. Look for article links, updates, (and the occasional joke) on Twitter @KateFerg or @WriterKateFerg, or check out her personal blog