16 Things The Happiest Couples Know About Keeping The Love Alive

Ever wonder how those happy couples do it? They’ve been together for years, but it seems like they never fight, they’re super supportive of one another, and they’re just as doe-eyed and in love as they were when they first met. What’s their secret? How they avoid ripping out the other’s throat, or worse, falling completely out of love? Well, they know these 16 secrets – it’s that simple.

  1. They say “I love you” every day. You might think that your other half knows how you feel about them, but there’s nothing in the world that can keep you closer than reminding each other how much you care.
  2. They make sure to show each other affection. Before you leave for work in the morning, give your partner a really great goodbye kiss, and when you come home from a long day, do it again. Your morning and evening greeting should be something that you look forward to. Once you start kissing and sharing your feelings often, you’ll appreciate each other more. People forget that the small things make a difference. When you begin your day with a loving gesture, you’re starting on a great note.
  3. They keep the fire alive. Nothing beats the I-can’t-keep-my-hands-off-you-and-am-so-obsessed-with-you honeymoon phase. It’s so amazing when the only thing you can focus on is your partner and you want to spend every single second together. But while the honeymoon phase has to end, the passion doesn’t have to. Happy couples work to keep intimacy and romance alive in the relationship.
  4. They share chores. Don’t grow to resent your partner by shouldering all the chores. If you prefer ironing and he hates it, then take that chore. But if you hate vacuuming and he doesn’t mind it, then make sure he does that for you! It’s all about sharing the responsibility.
  5. They make plans for the future. Happy and healthy couples keep their relationships strong by always looking towards the future. They always have a million plans in the works, rolling around in their heads, and that keeps them excited and happy as they move forward.
  6. They always have a holiday together planned. Making plans for the future should also include some downtime. This doesn’t necessarily have to be a trip to a beautiful location – it could just be a night in a hotel in a small city or town, or a camping trip to your favorite park. It’s up to you!
  7. They go to bed at the same time. If you don’t go to bed at the same time, you’re going to be on different schedules. To keep the strain off your relationship, try and go to bed at the same time, this way you’re both on the same page every day.
  8. They find common interests. Healthy couples can find common ground in almost anything. Even if they don’t share many of the same interests, they start hobbies together that they can share and enjoy with one another.
  9. They put their phones away. Healthy couples spend quality time together, and that means putting their phones away to have face-to-face time.
  10. They break routines. Your relationship shouldn’t feel like a routine; your life as a couple should be unpredictable. You should embrace spontaneity and surprise each other with fun new activities.
  11. They don’t pointlessly nag each other. Happy couples emphasize the positive things that their partner does. This means that if something is bothering you, you have a real conversation about it. Nitpicking, nagging, or criticizing is not the way to someone’s heart.
  12. They walk hand in hand. A healthy couple usually likes to be in physical contact with each other whenever they can, so they develop a habit of reaching for the other’s hand as they walk. As a bonus, walking hand in hand while out in public says to the world that you’re proud to be with your partner.
  13. Date night is alive and well. And rarely skipped! It’s an important occasion for both of you.
  14. They focus on what their partner does right, instead of what they do wrong. And that way they can remain supportive and avoid pulling their partner down.
  15. They always ask how their partner’s day was. Because it’s the little things – like letting your loved one know that you care about their day – that are important.
  16. They say “goodnight” every night (regardless of how they feel). A simple goodnight can do the world of good. It can give you the best of dreams, make you feel loved and cared for, and remind you that you how lucky you are to go to sleep beside someone that cares so much for you.
Sarah is a full-time content marketer, part-time freelancer. She’s a serial hobbyist (which just means that she does a lot of random things, but none of them particularly well). Her real talent lies in her ability to consume copious amounts of wine, whilst discussing feminism and reading A Song of Ice and Fire for the 8th time... All while saving puppies from burning houses, of course. You can see more of her work here, or pop over to Twitter and say “‘ello ‘ello” @daughterdipstik