16 Unexpected Signs You’re In Love (That Have Nothing To Do With Fireworks)

16 Unexpected Signs You’re In Love (That Have Nothing To Do With Fireworks)

Love isn’t always about grand gestures or heart-pounding excitement.

Sometimes, it’s in the small, everyday moments that we really see the depth of our feelings. Here are 16 unexpected signs you might be in love:

1. You actually want to hear about their day.

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And not just the highlights. You’re genuinely interested in the mundane details — what they had for lunch, the annoying thing their coworker did, all of it. Their everyday life fascinates you, not because it’s exciting, but because it’s theirs.

2. You find their quirks endearing, not annoying.

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That weird laugh they have? The way they always lose their keys? Instead of driving you up the wall, these little quirks make you smile. You’re not just tolerating these things; you actually find them charming.

3. You want to share good news with them first.

When something great happens, they’re the first person you want to tell. Before you even think about posting on social media or calling your mom, you’re reaching for your phone to share the news with them.

4. You’re comfortable doing nothing together.

Silence isn’t awkward anymore. In fact, as Forbes points out, it’s something that brings you closer together. You can happily coexist in the same space, each doing your own thing, and it feels natural. Just being in their presence is enough.

5. You start using “we” instead of “I” without realizing it.

When you’re making plans or talking about the future, you automatically include them. “We should try that new restaurant” or “We might go to the beach this summer.” It’s not a conscious decision; they’ve just become a natural part of your life plans.

6. You actually care about their opinion.

Whether it’s about your outfit or a big life decision, their input matters to you. Not because you need their approval, but because you value their perspective.

7. You want to make their life easier in small ways.

You find yourself doing little things to help them out — making coffee in the morning, picking up their favorite snack at the store, or sending them a funny meme when you know they’re having a tough day. It’s not about grand gestures; it’s about the everyday acts of care.

8. Their happiness genuinely makes you happy.

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When something good happens to them, you feel a sense of joy that rivals how you’d feel if it happened to you. Their wins feel like your wins.

9. You start adopting their expressions or habits.

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You might catch yourself using a phrase they always use or picking up one of their habits. It’s not intentional mimicry; their mannerisms have just rubbed off on you.

10. You’re willing to try things they like, even if they’re not your usual cup of tea.

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Suddenly, you’re watching sci-fi movies or trying out rock climbing, not because you’ve always wanted to, but because you want to understand and share their interests.

11. You find yourself daydreaming about ordinary future scenarios with them.

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Your fantasies aren’t about extravagant weddings or tropical vacations. Instead, you catch yourself imagining mundane things like grocery shopping together or growing old on a porch swing.

12. You want to be a better person.

Not because they’re trying to change you, but because being with them inspires you to grow. You want to be the best version of yourself, not for them, but alongside them.

13. Their pain is your pain.

When they’re hurting, you feel it deeply. Their struggles and sorrows affect you on a personal level, and you genuinely want to help them through tough times.

14. You’re not keeping score anymore.

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You stop tracking who paid for dinner last or who did the dishes more often. The give and take in your relationship starts to feel natural rather than transactional.

15. You find beauty in their imperfections.

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The little things that might objectively be flaws — a crooked smile, a snort when they laugh, the way they can never remember names — become beautiful to you. These imperfections make them uniquely them, and that’s what you love.

16. You feel safe being vulnerable with them.

You’re not afraid to show your true self, warts and all. Whether you’re ugly crying or sharing your deepest fears, you know they’ll accept you without judgment. That’s what makes a good relationship, Psych Central notes.

Originally from Australia, Emma Mills graduated from the University of Queensland with a dual degree in Philosophy and Applied Linguistics before moving to Los Angeles to become a professional matchmaker (a bit of a shift, obviously). Since 2015, she has helped more than 150 people find lasting love and remains passionate about bringing amazing singletons together.

Emma is also the author of the upcoming Hachette publication, "Off the Beaten Track: Finding Lasting Love in the Least Likely of Places," due out in January 2025.