18 Habits That Smart People Don’t Have

We all have that one friend or acquaintance who seems to be constantly stumbling through life, making choices that leave us scratching our heads in disbelief. And while it might sound a bit harsh, some habits are just plain, well, not the brightest. If you’ve ever wondered what separates the thinkers from the non-thinkers, you’re in the right place. Here are some stupid people habits that smart people steer clear of at all costs.

1. They judge people on superficial things.

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We all know the type — the ones who make snap judgments based on someone’s shoes, hairstyle, or the car they drive. It’s such a shallow way of viewing the world, right? Smart folks know that character isn’t determined by a handbag or a watch. It’s about values, actions, and how someone treats other people. When we judge superficially, we miss out on getting to know some truly wonderful people. So, wise up and look beyond the surface. You might just find a diamond in the rough.

2. They blame everyone else for their problems.

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This is one of the most well-practiced habits of stupid people that exists. Ever met someone who’s always playing the victim? Nothing’s ever their fault. It’s always their boss, their partner, the weather, or their childhood pet hamster. Smart people, on the other hand, take responsibility. They understand that while some things are beyond their control, how they react and handle situations is totally up to them. Pointing fingers won’t solve anything. Owning up, learning, and growing? Now, that’s the way forward.

3. They don’t know how to choose their battles.

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Some people just seem to be itching for a fight, about everything, all the time. Whether it’s about which way the toilet paper should roll or pineapple on pizza. The smarter move? Knowing when to speak up and when to let things slide. Not every hill is worth dying on. It’s about preserving energy for the stuff that genuinely matters. Life’s too short for unnecessary drama.

4. They don’t dress for the occasion.

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Now, I’m not saying everyone should be a fashionista, but there’s a difference between having a unique style and showing up to a job interview in flip-flops. Smart people know how to match their outfits to the situation. It’s not about impressing anyone but rather showing respect for the event or the people involved. Whether it’s a friend’s wedding or a business meeting, dressing appropriately is a sign that you’re thoughtful and considerate.

5. They refuse to educate themselves because they don’t want to change their opinions even when they know they’re wrong.

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You ever chat with someone who, no matter how much evidence or logic you present, just won’t budge from their viewpoint? It’s like they’re wearing blinkers. Smart folks keep an open mind. They get that part of growing is sometimes realizing you were wrong and adjusting. It’s not about ‘I told you so’, but about understanding things better.

6. They can’t express themselves using any words besides profanity.

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Swearing has its moments, sure. But if every other word out of someone’s mouth is a curse, it just sounds like they’re not trying. Communicating well means being clear and connecting with the person you’re talking to. And let’s be real, constantly dropping F-bombs doesn’t make for deep conversations. There are so many words out there – let’s use them. If you need some help, here are tips on communicating more effectively according to the Harvard Business Review.

7. They smoke.

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With everything we know about smoking’s harms, picking up a cigarette nowadays seems a bit… outdated? And it’s not just about health; it’s about choices. It’s 2024! There are so many other ways (like these according to WebMD!) to deal with stress or take a break. Smart folks look for healthier, more sustainable ways to chill.

8. They’re bigots who hate or hold stereotypical ideas about people of different races, religions, sexualities, etc.

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Ever met someone who just can’t see past their own narrow viewpoint and judges entire groups based on stereotypes? It’s frustrating, right? While no one expects everyone to know everything about every culture or group out there, just showing a little openness and willingness to learn goes a long way. Smart people understand that the world is vast and varied. They know that every person has their own story, and it’s not cool to paint everyone with the same brush.

9. They don’t know how to hold their liquor (or pace themselves).

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We all love a fun night out, and sometimes it’s with a glass in hand. But there’s a line between enjoying yourself and overdoing it. Those who constantly end up over the edge, slurring words, or making scenes might not realize it, but they’re missing out. On good chats, fun dances, and memorable moments. Smart folks get this. They find that sweet spot where they’re having a blast but still have tomorrow in mind. Because who likes waking up with regret? Not them.

10. They live on takeout food and never exercise.

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We all love a good pizza night or a cheeky takeout now and then, especially when life gets a bit too much. But imagine making that your daily routine! Not only does it drain your wallet, but it’s also not doing your body any favors. Smart people know that taking care of their bodies means feeling better, both mentally and physically. You don’t need to run a marathon, but even just a walk around the block can make a difference. And hey, cooking can be therapeutic!

11. They let people walk all over them.

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This is one of the saddest habits of stupid people. Some folks have a hard time standing up for themselves. But constantly being a doormat isn’t just bad for self-esteem, it also sends a message that you don’t value yourself. Smart people recognize their worth. They set boundaries and make sure they’re respected. It’s not about being confrontational; it’s about ensuring you’re treated the way you deserve.

12. They work themselves into the ground thinking they’re going to get ahead.

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Hard work is commendable. But there’s a fine line between being dedicated and burning yourself out. Some people wear their exhaustion like a badge of honor, thinking it’ll lead to success. Smart people understand balance. They work hard, sure, but they also know when to take a step back, rest, and recharge. After all, you’re at your best when you’re refreshed, not when you’re running on fumes.

13. They think material possessions make them interesting or worthwhile people.

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A new designer bag or the latest tech gadget might be fun, but smart people know that what you own doesn’t define your worth. Being interesting comes from experiences, relationships, and personal growth, not from flaunting the newest luxury item. Because at the end of the day, it’s about who you are, not what you have.

14. They don’t read.

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Okay, we get it, not everyone’s a bookworm. But never reading? That’s closing off a world of knowledge, stories, and perspectives. Reading isn’t just about diving into a novel; it’s magazines, news articles, blogs – anything that expands your horizon. Smart people know that by reading, they’re always growing, learning, and staying curious about the world around them. This is not to say that people who haven’t developed a reading habit are automatically stupid, just that they could (and should) open and expand their minds a bit more.

15. They “live in the moment” and never plan for the future.

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Living in the moment can be freeing. Spontaneity has its place, and we should all seize the day from time to time. But ignoring the future entirely? That’s a no-go. Smart people understand the importance of planning – whether it’s for finances, career, or personal goals. It’s not about having a rigid, step-by-step game plan, but rather setting yourself up for success and being prepared for whatever life throws your way.

16. They date people they know are all wrong because they don’t want to be alone.

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Settling in relationships is like buying shoes that are one size too small just because they’re on sale – uncomfortable and bound to cause problems later. Smart people recognize their worth and refuse to settle for less than they deserve in love. Being alone might feel daunting at times, but it’s far better than being with someone who doesn’t truly value or understand you.

17. They don’t practice self-care.

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Life gets hectic, and sometimes we forget to prioritize ourselves. But consistently neglecting self-care? That’s just setting yourself up for burnout. Smart people know the importance of taking time for themselves, whether that’s a relaxing bath, a weekend getaway, or even just a quiet moment with a cup of tea. Because when you take care of yourself, you can better take care of everything else in your life.

18. They base their self-worth on social media likes and comments.

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A flood of likes or comments might boost your mood for a moment, but relying on social media validation for self-worth is a shaky foundation. Smart women understand that their worth isn’t determined by virtual thumbs-ups or heart emojis. It’s about real-world accomplishments, genuine relationships, and personal growth. Remember, social media is just a highlight reel; it doesn’t capture the full, beautiful mess that real life is.

Harper Stanley graduated from Eugene Lang College at The New School in NYC in 2006 with a degree in Media Studies and Literature and Critical Analysis. After graduating, she worked as an editorial assistant at The Atlantic before moving to the UK to work for the London Review of Books.

When she's not waxing poetic about literature, she's writing articles about dating, relationships, and other women's lifestyle topics to help make their lives better. While shocking, she really has somehow managed to avoid joining any social media apps — a fact she's slightly smug about.