18 Ways My Life Has Improved Since I Embraced My Inner Badass

When I was younger, I spent a lot of time doubting myself. I didn’t know my immense worth as a human being, but I’ve grown and changed and thankfully now I finally do. I’m so happy that I finally love who I am because it’s transformed my life in these 18 ways:

  1. I’m focused. I believe in myself and my ability to do anything now. I used to let fear and insecurity hold me back but I’m over all that now. I’m going to make all my dreams a reality.
  2. I live in the present. I used to spend a lot of my time regretting the past or worrying about the future. Now I try to stay in the here and now as much as possible because I want to live as vibrantly and fully as I can.
  3. I know who I am. I don’t worry about what other people think of me anymore. I know myself and I’m proud of the woman I’ve become. I don’t let anyone or anything tear me down any longer. I just keep on working as hard as I can.
  4. I’m always striving to improve myself. I know that the key to my happiness is to continue the hard work of growing and evolving. Everything will progress wonderfully if I keep on trying to be my best self.
  5. I don’t stress. I used to get anxious and worry all the time about circumstances that were out of my control. Now I take everything one moment at a time and I accept the reality of what’s going on. I know it’s better to spend my energy on positive endeavors.
  6. I don’t take things personally. As I’ve grown to know myself, I’ve also learned that how other people react to me is largely a reflection of them and not me. I don’t sweat it anymore when someone is upset with me for simply living my life.
  7. I have fewer expectations of others. Because I no longer rely on others to make me feel happy, I don’t expect so much of them anymore. I’ve relieved a lot of pressure on both myself and them by learning to satisfy myself instead.
  8. I understand that I can do anything I want. I believe that I can accomplish anything if I work enough. I never used to believe in myself, and this new attitude has truly set me free in the most remarkable of ways.
  9. I no longer judge myself based on untruths. I used to be very, very tough on myself. I was crippling myself and killing any goals I wanted to achieve by always thinking of myself negatively. Now when my thoughts threaten to undermine my confidence, I push them aside and focus on reality.
  10. I’m much more pragmatic. I’ve swept away all the noise and confusion of living in fear of everything and I can see the world more clearly. I’m not as emotional and lost anymore—I see what needs to be done and I make a plan to get where I want to be.
  11. I’m confident. This is the most important and transformative change that has come from embracing my inner fire. My new-found self-esteem has honestly changed my entire life and now I’m doing things I never would’ve thought possible.
  12. I don’t let moments of weakness define me. I know that I’m human and I don’t feel like a failure every time I have a bad moment, a bad day, or a bad week. That’s life, and as far as I’ve come, sometimes I will feel like I’m regressing instead. I don’t let it get me down.
  13. I don’t beat myself up over mistakes. I used to get so down on myself if I didn’t do everything perfectly. I was holding myself to an impossible standard and therefore basically ensuring that I would not succeed at anything. Now I give myself a break and move on.
  14. I don’t let other people dictate my mood. Once upon a time, an unkind word or action from another person could completely destroy me. I couldn’t let things go—sometimes I would hold on for years. Now I let it slide off my back because I don’t need that negative energy.
  15. I enjoy myself a lot more. Funny enough, life is a lot better now that I’m committed to living it fully! I don’t care what anyone thinks of me and if I want to do something, I make it happen. I’m exploring and adventuring all the time, and it’s truly wonderful. Life as a badass is pretty great.
  16. I appreciate the important things. Whereas before I may have let all the negative thoughts in my mind overpower what really mattered, now I understand that is a complete waste. I don’t let all the noise and drama get in the way of what’s truly significant in my life.
  17. I’ve adjusted my priorities. I used to care the most about the things that mattered the least. As I grew into my badass self, I changed. For example, now I spend my energy making sure my family and friends feel loved instead of wasting it on some jerk who won’t be around in a week.
  18. I feel like I finally get it. I’m not upset that I wasted so many years not understanding my worth—I’m simply grateful to have finally gotten the memo. I know plenty of people go their entire lives feeling unsatisfied and depressed. I’m no longer on that path and I’m extraordinarily happy to be living my best life. Sounds corny but it’s true.
A former actress who has always loved the art of the written word, Amy is excited to be here sharing her stories! She just completed her first novel, and is also a contributor for Elite Daily, Dirty & Thirty, and Thought Catalog. Amy is the founder of What If Journey and can be found on Twitter @amyhorton18. You can also visit her website at amyhorton.net.