20 Struggles Indecisive Women Go Through On A Daily Basis

Most people have a hard time making major life decisions, and that’s understandable. After all, you want to do the right thing, and who wouldn’t? But for those who are chronically incapable of making up their minds about nearly everything, being indecisive is a pain in the ass that effects your life daily. If committing to a decision is your worst nightmare, you’ll relate to these 20 struggles:

  1. You’re obsessed with pro and con lists. You can’t really make a decision without one. You might even have an app just for making them.
  2. You could go for pizza… or Thai food… or tacos… Deciding what to eat is such a struggle that you almost always end up eating at your regular spot or letting someone else chose where to go.
  3. “I don’t know, what do you want to do?” might be your most used sentence. And you have no idea how annoying this is to other people.
  4. You shop for hours and buy nothing, only to regret it later. There are too many choices at the mall, and none once you’ve left. Your best bet is to dump things in your online shopping cart and see how you feel about it in a few days.
  5. You’ve applied to advanced degree programs in several different fields. You’re putting off narrowing down your career options for as long as possible.
  6. You’re always asking the bartender for one more minute to decide. You’re still not sure what drink you’re in the mood for, or if you should decide what you’re getting to eat first, or if it makes sense to get whatever’s on special…
  7. Your biggest fear is being in charge of group plans. You might just fake being sick if you have to decide where everyone’s going out tonight.
  8. You need time to mourn your loss of options. Every decision means an infinite amount of future possibilities are off the table, and sometimes you need a time out to cope with that loss.
  9. You’re incapable of committing to plans. You try to play everything by ear. What if something better comes up? Or you get tired? Or you get sucked into a Netflix marathon? It’s better to be noncommittal than be flakey and cancel.
  10. You’re always asking your friends for advice, and then ignoring it. You honestly do want advice, but it’s almost never good enough to help you be decisive.
  11. You care too much about what other people want. How can you pick a pizza place if you can’t consider everyone’s feelings about pizza? If your decisions affect other people, even slightly, you end up interviewing everyone instead of just picking something.
  12. Thinking about marriage gives you a mini panic attack. It’s just so final. Like, forever final. And you’re not even sure how you’ll feel about this person next month.
  13. You need 100 dates to decide if you want to sleep with someone. As Clueless‘ Cher once said,   “You see how picky I am about my shoes and they only go on my feet.”
  14. You’re a slave to online reviews. Online reviews are a nifty resource for those who want to be talked out of committing to purchase anything online. If something is rated 4.9/5 stars, you need to read 1,000 reviews to find out why.
  15. You fear your choices will be judged. You kind of want to pick a karaoke bar, but you’re scared that that’s silly, so you pick nothing and let your boyfriend drag you to the same local dive bar for the ten thousandth time.
  16. You waste a ton of time. Considering every pro, con, and possible outcome is seriously time consuming, and also seriously pointless since you never end up making a decision, anyway.
  17. Impulsive people give you anxiety. You’re super into that spontaneous vacation idea until your BFFs whip out their phone and start booking plane tickets. You panic and backpeddle out of any solid commitment.
  18. You’re not sure if you love or hate decision making. Maybe you actually love the decision making process so much that you just don’t want it to end? You’re really into that thorough research step.
  19. You’re afraid of consequences. You’re afraid that some choices are good and some are bad, always worrying about the “what if?”s.
  20. You’re never sure if a guy is interested in you or the chase. Your noncommittal, hard to tie down ways are real and not just a trick to get guys into you. What if he loses interest if you decide to go all in?
Holly Harris is a freelance writer, full time student, and mommy to a toddler sass monster. In her (nearly nonexistent) free time, you can find her lifting something heavy in her home gym or chugging vodka sodas with friends. She contributes to several other sites, including Elite Daily.