20 Things Men Find Extremely Unattractive In Women

20 Things Men Find Extremely Unattractive In Women

Attraction is super personal, and what one person finds appealing, another might not.

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It’s important to remember that beauty is subjective and there’s no one-size-fits-all answer to what men find attractive in women. However, there are certain behaviors and traits that can be major turn-offs for many men. Here are some of these common dislikes, not to dictate how anyone should behave, but to spark honest conversations about attraction and relationships.

1. Excessive negativity and complaining

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A little venting is natural, but a constant stream of negativity can be draining. Men often appreciate women who have a positive outlook and can find the silver lining in challenging situations. While it’s important to express your feelings, dwelling on the negative can make it difficult to enjoy each other’s company.

2. A lack of self-confidence

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Confidence is incredibly attractive. It shows you value yourself and aren’t afraid to take up space in the world. Constantly seeking validation or putting yourself down can be a turn-off. Remember, you have unique qualities and strengths, and owning them can make you irresistible.

3. Being overly critical or judgmental

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Nobody’s perfect, and we all have flaws. Being overly critical of yourself or other people can create a tense and uncomfortable atmosphere. Men often appreciate women who are accepting and compassionate, both towards themselves and those around them.

4. Playing games or being manipulative

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Honesty and authenticity are key to building trust and connection, Forbes explains. Playing mind games, trying to make someone jealous, or being manipulative can be a major turn-off. Men value women who are straightforward and genuine in their interactions.

5. Being overly materialistic or obsessed with appearances

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While it’s natural to care about your appearance, placing too much emphasis on material possessions or superficial beauty can be a red flag. Men often appreciate women who are down-to-earth, value inner beauty, and have interests beyond shopping and looks.

6. A lack of ambition or passion

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Having goals and dreams shows you’re driven and motivated. A lack of ambition or passion can make you seem stagnant and uninspired. Men often appreciate women who have a zest for life and are actively pursuing their passions.

7. Being overly dependent or clingy

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Healthy relationships are built on mutual respect and independence. Being overly dependent or clingy can suffocate a relationship and make the other person feel burdened. Men often appreciate women who have their own lives and interests outside of the relationship.

8. Gossiping or talking negatively about people

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Gossip can be toxic and create unnecessary drama. Men often appreciate women who are kind and supportive, even when talking about other people. Focusing on positive qualities and being complimentary can make you more attractive and enjoyable to be around.

9. Being disrespectful or rude

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Good manners and respect go a long way in any relationship. Being disrespectful or rude, whether it’s to your partner, their friends, or strangers, can be a major turn-off. Men often appreciate women who are polite, considerate, and treat people with kindness.

10. A lack of hygiene or self-care

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Taking care of yourself shows you value your well-being and want to present your best self to the world. Neglecting basic hygiene or self-care can be a major turn-off. Men often appreciate women who take pride in their appearance and make an effort to look and feel their best.

11. Being overly dramatic or creating unnecessary conflict

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A little drama can be exciting, but constantly stirring up conflict or making a big deal out of small issues can be exhausting. Men often appreciate women who are level-headed, can resolve conflicts peacefully, and don’t create unnecessary drama.

12. Being constantly late or unreliable

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Respecting other people’s time is important. Being chronically late or canceling plans last minute shows a lack of consideration and can be frustrating for the other person. Men often appreciate women who are reliable and follow through on their commitments.

13. Being overly possessive or jealous

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Trust is the foundation of a healthy relationship. Being overly possessive or jealous can create a suffocating environment and drive a wedge between partners. Men often appreciate women who trust them and give them space to be themselves.

14. Nagging or constantly complaining about your partner

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Nobody likes to be constantly criticized or belittled. Nagging or complaining about your partner’s flaws can erode their self-esteem and create resentment. Men often appreciate women who offer support and encouragement, focusing on positive qualities rather than dwelling on negatives.

15. Being overly emotional or irrational

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Emotions are a natural part of life, but letting them control your behavior can be a turn-off. Men often appreciate women who can express their emotions in a healthy way, without resorting to outbursts or irrational behavior. Being able to communicate calmly and rationally is key to resolving conflicts and building a strong relationship.

16. Being overly competitive or trying to “one-up” your partner

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A healthy relationship is a partnership, not a competition. Constantly trying to outdo your partner or belittle their achievements can create tension and resentment. Men often appreciate women who are supportive and celebrate their successes, rather than trying to compete with them.

17. Having a closed mind or being unwilling to try new things

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Life is full of new experiences and opportunities for growth. Being closed-minded or refusing to step outside of your comfort zone can make you seem boring and predictable. Men often appreciate women who are open to new ideas, willing to try new things, and embrace adventure.

18. Being overly focused on your phone or social media

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Technology is a part of modern life, but it’s important to be present and engaged when you’re with someone. Constantly checking your phone or scrolling through social media can make the other person feel ignored and unimportant. Men often appreciate women who are fully present and give them their undivided attention.

19. Having poor communication skills or being passive-aggressive

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Clear and honest communication is essential for any healthy relationship. Being passive-aggressive, avoiding difficult conversations, or expecting your partner to read your mind can lead to misunderstandings and resentment. Men often appreciate women who can express their needs and concerns directly and honestly.

20. Being disrespectful to service workers or people in positions of authority

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The way you treat people says a lot about your character. Being rude or disrespectful to service workers or people in positions of authority shows a lack of empathy and can be a major turn-off, The Guardian points out. Men often appreciate women who are kind and respectful to everyone, regardless of their social status or occupation.

Sinitta Weston grew up in Edinburgh but moved to Sydney, Australia to for college and never came back. She works as a chemical engineer during the day and at night, she writes articles about love and relationships. She's her friends' go-to for dating advice (though she struggles to take the same advice herself). Her INFJ personality makes her extra sensitive to others' feelings and this allows her to help people through tough times with ease. Hopefully, her articles can do that for you.