21 Phrases Used By People Who (Mistakenly) Think They’re Smarter Than You

21 Phrases Used By People Who (Mistakenly) Think They’re Smarter Than You

We all know someone who thinks they’re the smartest person in the room when in reality, the opposite is likely true.

They might not be wearing a “I’m with genius” t-shirt (pointing to themselves), but their words give them away. Here’s a rundown of phrases that scream “I think I’m smarter than you” — even when they’re not.

1. “Actually…”

The classic know-it-all intro. They’re not just correcting you; they’re letting you know they’ve got the “real” scoop. It’s like they can’t help but one-up your knowledge, even if you weren’t asking for input.

2. “I hate to be the one to tell you this, but…”

No, they don’t hate it. They love it. This phrase is usually followed by some “enlightening” information they’re all too eager to share. It’s their way of positioning themselves as the bearer of superior knowledge.

3. “It’s not rocket science.”

Translation: “This is so simple, even you should get it.” They’re implying that if you don’t understand, you must be a bit slow on the uptake. It’s a backhanded way of flexing their intellectual muscles.

4. “Well, in my experience…”

This gem usually pops up when they’re about to dismiss your point of view. Their experience trumps all, apparently. Never mind if your experiences or knowledge might be just as valid or even more relevant.

5. “I don’t mean to sound condescending, but…”

Spoiler alert: They absolutely mean to sound condescending. This phrase is often followed by something that’s, you guessed it, totally condescending. It’s like they think adding this disclaimer makes their patronizing okay.

6. “Let me break it down for you.”

As if you’re a toddler who needs things explained in simple terms. They’re positioning themselves as the expert who needs to simplify complex ideas for your benefit. It’s patronizing at its finest.

7. “You’re entitled to your opinion, but…”

This classic is usually followed by why your opinion is wrong and theirs is right. They’re giving lip service to respecting your views while simultaneously dismissing them.

8. “I’ve done my research.”

Often used by people who’ve spent 15 minutes on Google and now consider themselves experts. They’re implying that if you disagree, you must not have “done your research” as thoroughly as they have.

9. “It’s just common sense.”

The implication? If you don’t agree or understand, you must lack common sense. It’s a sneaky way of making their perspective seem like the only logical one.

10. “No offense, but…”

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Buckle up because offense is definitely coming. This phrase usually precedes something critical or insulting, thinly veiled as helpful insight from their superior intellect.

11. “I’m just playing devil’s advocate.”

Sometimes, this is a legitimate debate technique. Often, though, it’s just an excuse to argue against you without taking responsibility for their contrary stance. It’s like they’re saying, “I’m smart enough to see both sides, unlike you.”

12. “You’d understand if you…”

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This gem is usually followed by some qualification they think you lack. It’s their way of saying your perspective isn’t valid because you haven’t had their experiences or education.

13. “I don’t expect you to understand, but…”

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Talk about setting the bar low. They’re essentially saying you’re incapable of grasping their supposedly superior insight. It’s condescension wrapped in fake humility.

14. “Let me give you some advice.”

Unsolicited advice, that is. They’re positioning themselves as the wise sage, ready to bestow their knowledge upon you, whether you want it or not.

15. “I’m not like other people.”

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This classic is often used to set themselves apart as uniquely intelligent or insightful. They’re not-so-subtly implying that they’re above average — and probably above you too.

16. “You’re overthinking it.”

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This dismissive phrase suggests that your careful consideration is unnecessary because the answer (which they probably think they have) is obvious. It’s a way of shutting down deeper discussion.

17. “Trust me, I know what I’m talking about.”

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The implication? You shouldn’t question them because their knowledge is superior. It’s often used when they can’t actually back up their claims with facts.

18. “I’m just being honest.”

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Usually followed by something unnecessarily harsh or critical. They’re using “honesty” as a shield for their rudeness, implying that their bluntness comes from a place of superior understanding.

19. “It’s not that complicated.”

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Similar to “it’s not rocket science,” this phrase dismisses any complexity you might be grappling with. They’re positioning themselves as someone who easily understands things that stump everyone else.

20. “You’re missing the point.”

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This phrase implies that you’re not smart enough to grasp the “real” issue at hand — which, of course, they think they’ve identified. It’s a way of redirecting the conversation to showcase their supposed insight.

21. “I could explain it to you, but…”

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The unspoken end of this sentence is often “…but you wouldn’t understand.” It’s a particularly condescending way of implying that their knowledge is beyond your comprehension.

Piper Ryan is a NYC-based writer and matchmaker who works to bring millennials who are sick of dating apps and the bar scene together in an organic and efficient way. To date, she's paired up more than 120 couples, many of whom have gone on to get married. Her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, Time Out New York, The Cut, and many more.

In addition to runnnig her own business, Piper is passionate about charity work, advocating for vulnerable women and children in her local area and across the country. She is currently working on her first book, a non-fiction collection of stories focusing on female empowerment.