BDSM and kinky sex are the hottest topics on everyone’s lips these days. A lot of people are content to just read 50 Shades of Grey and let their minds run wild, but some of us are finding that the images of bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, and sadomasochism continue to dominate our thoughts (no pun intended). Do you have more than a passing interest in BDSM? Here’s how to tell.
- You’ve responded to snarky comments with “bite me.” And meant it.
- You find all the traditional sex acts boring. You want to spice things up in the bedroom, and “vanilla” sex just isn’t doing it for you.
- You’ve gotten a partner to tie your wrists together once or twice. And you were disappointed when they didn’t want to do it again.
- Your ears perk up whenever someone mentions Fifty Shades. You jump at the chance to talk about BDSM with anyone who will listen.
- Sex for you has always been kind of rough. Hair pulling and nipple pinching are standard fare for you.
- You’ve spent hours online reading articles and taking quizzes about BDSM. Would you be a top or a bottom? You won’t know until you try it out.
- You like to be “naughty” on purpose. Then you try and convince your partner that you need to be “punished” for your bad behavior.
- You’ve played with blindfolds before. You loved how heightened your senses became and can’t wait to try it again.
- You like any sex position that has you on top. You love the feeling of being in control.
- Or you almost always prefer missionary and doggy style. You like it when your partner knows how to take the reigns.
- Scratches? Yes, please.
- You saw something kinky watching sex online once, and you can’t stop thinking about it. You’re trying to figure out how to best bring it up to your partner, because you really want to try it out.
- You’ve subtly tried to give your partner the power in the bedroom. You want them to dominate you, plain and simple.
- You tell your partner up front what you’re expecting before getting into bed with them. You’re not afraid to take charge when it comes to your sex life.
- Rihanna’s “S&M” has become your personal anthem. Chains and whips? You like it, like it.
- You’ve had someone sneak a little spanking into your bedroom activities. Instead of freaking out, you found you actually like the sensation.
- You’ve left copies of Fifty Shades lying around. You’re hoping your partner will get the hint.
- You’ve had your partner bite your neck every now and then. You’re always disappointed when they don’t do it as hard as you’d like.
- You have specific code words you use with your partner. They know to stop what they’re doing and check in with you to make sure everything’s okay. Safe words, anyone?
- You live to see your partner’s O-face, because you love to please them. You know you just made them really happy, and that makes you feel good, too.
- You live to see your partner’s O-face, because you love the sense of control it gives you. They’re at your mercy in that moment, and you get drunk on the power.
- You love waking up to love bites on your skin. Other people may think them trashy, but you don’t mind being reminded of that awesome night you had.
- You’re still trying to get your partner to let you spank them. You want to see what it would feel like to make them squirm.
- Your friends say you’re too kinky for them. You didn’t think your fantasies of being handcuffed to the bed were too out there.
- You plan on seeing Fifty Shades with your partner, and then going straight back home. You’ve got some things you’d like to try out.
As always, when practicing BDSM remember to stay safe. Do your research before you try anything new, but above all have a kinky fun time!
