7 Reasons Introverts Are More Likely To Be Single

It’s great that so many people feel comfortable putting themselves out there and being the life of the party, for us introverts there’s nothing more nightmarish. Our lone wolf ways are something we cherish but unfortunately, they also make it harder to find love.

  1. We like staying in way too much. There’s nothing more relaxing than coming home from a long day at work, immediately taking off our bra and changing into our comfies, cooking ourselves a nice dinner and then planting ourselves on the couch for a long evening of Intervention marathoning in front of the TV. Unfortunately, not many eligible bachelors come knocking on our doors.
  2. We find it hard to talk about ourselves and our lives. Because we’re introverted, we like to keep things, well, inside more often. It’s not that we’re emotionally repressed or immature, it’s just that we like to process things internally and work through issues on our own. We’re also not into bragging or bigging ourselves up, which makes letting a potential romantic partner in to get to know us kinda difficult.
  3. We’re naturally pretty reserved. When do go actually go out with our girlfriends to a bar or club, we’re definitely not the type to strike up conversation with anyone who catches our eye. We keep ourselves to ourselves and becauseĀ of that, we probably don’t give off any welcoming body language either. It’s not that we’re trying to seem hostile, it just sorta happens.
  4. We enjoy our own company so finding love isn’t necessarily a priority. Because we’ve spent a lot of time on our own, we’ve mastered the art of self-love and we truly relish our own company. We never get bored because we have hobbies and passions to pursue and we’re comfortable in our own skin. Because of this, we’re not desperate for a relationship even if we can admit that one might be nice.
  5. It’s hard to find someone who truly gets us. Depending on the severity of our introversion, finding someone who not only understands that but truly accepts it is difficult to say the least. It’s unlikely that we’re going to meet another introvert given the inherent lifestyle in being one, meaning we spend more time single than not.
  6. We find relationships a bit suffocating at times. If we do manage to find a great relationship, it doesn’t take long before it all becomes a little overwhelming and we find ourselves desperate for a little alone time. It’s not that we don’t love our partners, just that we’re not used to dedicating so much of our time and energy outward and it can be a bit of a tough adjustment at times.
  7. We’re stubbornly self-sufficient. Because we spend so much time on our own, we’re all about fulfilling our own needs, be they sexual, financial, mental, or emotional. We’re essentially our own partners in many ways, so allowing someone to come in and help care for us the way we do for ourselves isn’t something we’ll allow easily. We can be hard work in that way, but ultimately for the right person, we’re worth it.
Jennifer Still is a writer and editor with more than 10 years of experience. The managing editor of Bolde, she has bylines in Vanity Fair, Business Insider, The New York Times, Glamour, Bon Appetit, and many more. You can follow her on Twitter @jenniferlstill