7 Rules That Strong, Single Women Live By

Strong, single women don’t play by the same rules, and we don’t let a relationship — or lack thereof — define us. We’re actually completely happy rolling solo because our lives are busy and fulfilling even without a guy, and we stay focused on the positive. That’s just one of the rules we live by— here are 7 more:

  1. No guy will come between us and our friends. Our friends are our extended family, and no future relationship will make our weekly hangout obsolete. And if the guy we’re seeing is unreasonably jealous of one of our guy friends? The boyfriend may have to go. Our bond with our buddies is tight, and we wouldn’t break it lightly.
  2. Our biological clocks may be ticking, but we’re not driven by the sound. We’re not going to enter a relationship solely for the opportunity to have children — instead, any future relationship will be with someone we connect with, who makes us want to be a better, stronger person overall. If we decide we want kids — we’re still undecided — hopefully it happens naturally and if not, there are always other options, like adoption.
  3. Just because we’re single doesn’t mean we don’t know how to live. We have no problem with going to the movies solo if there’s something we want to see. We also love the freedom that our Fridays bring — going on a date just isn’t as interesting to us as putting on some dancing shoes and heading to the club, whether by ourselves or with some girlfriends. When someone tells us that we’re missing out by lacking a significant other, we just shrug and tell them that our lives have been fantastic so far without one.
  4. Putting a career before a relationship is okay. People want different things, so if the idea of dating gives us a panic attack but we dream about that next promotion, we know that’s still a healthy way of thinking. And if someone calls us a”workaholic,” we take that as a compliment. And why shouldn’t we? We’re prepared to always take care of ourselves and our own finances.
  5. If it happens, it happens. We’re not begging for a boyfriend, nor are we constantly tweaking our OkCupid profiles. We’d never even think to spend money on a site like Match. If we happen to be out somewhere and someone catches our eye, that’s one thing, but spending all our free time looking for a boyfriend when there are other important things to do just seems a little foolish to you.
  6. We’re just not into games of any kind. We’re over dramatic friendships and dramatic guys. We don’t vent it all out on social media to try and fish for pity — and we actually block people we’re connected with on social media who do. We’ve just matured way past that, and in a way, it kinda-sorta makes us a little intimidating to some.
  7. Anything a guy can do, we can do better (or at least just as well). And that’s why we’re always on top of our game. We don’t run and hide if there’s a spider in our apartment — we capture that thing and free him outside like a boss. We can give presentations at work that stun even the big bosses. We’re not incomplete or lesser than and we’ll never allow ourselves to feel like we are.
Karen Belz is a New Jersey native who is currently living in Maryland. She has a Bachelor’s Degree in Speech Communication with a focus in Broadcasting and Print Media Studies from Millersville University of Pennsylvania. Since graduating, she has written for sites like LittleThings, HelloGiggles, and Scary Mommy and is currently an e-commerce editor at Bustle.

When she's not writing, she enjoys making her phone run out of memory after taking too many photos of her dog. You can find her on Twitter @karenebelz or on Instagram @karenbelz.