7 Signs He’s Too Selfish To Be In A Relationship

7 Signs He’s Too Selfish To Be In A Relationship ©iStock/SolStock

Selfishness isn’t always a bad thing, but if you’ve found yourself in the arms of a lover who has never put you or your relationship first, there’s something seriously wrong. If you notice any of these signs, it’s time for YOU to be selfish by getting out of the relationship ASAP:

  1. It’s always “me” and never “we.” You’re supposed to be working against all odds, loving working together through thick or thin, as a solid team. However, because he’s focused purely on how he can get his needs fulfilled, he neglects yours in the process. When you try to call his attention to his insufferable “me, myself and I”  attitude, he doesn’t hear you out at all.
  2. He’s overly competitive with you. Because he looks at you as a tough competitor instead of a girlfriend he should be inspiring, motivating and supporting all the way, he sometimes ends up sabotaging your success. He doesn’t want to see you reaching for your dreams when he’s stuck and not able to turn his into a reality (which is a loser move, really).
  3. He doesn’t want to share the spotlight with you. Because he loves himself too much, he makes a conscious effort to be on top of you (not just in bed, but in your individual careers). When he’s not, he throws a fit to make you feel bad about your success. He’s never happy for your achievements — in fact, you can’t recall a point when you celebrated it together.
  4. Compromise is a foreign thing to him. You’ve heard the old adage “love is sacrifice” and you embraced that wholeheartedly the moment the two of you became an item. You don’t mind making sacrifices here and there for him, but he doesn’t seem to feel the same way. Instead, he insists on getting things done his way and if it doesn’t happen, it becomes your fault.
  5. You’ve yet to hear a “thank you” from him. It’s not that you want him to show endless gratitude for every single thing you do, but there are times when a simple thanks would go a long way in keeping you from feeling taken for granted. The problem is, it’s yet to happen. If he doesn’t appreciate you and your contributions to the relationship, he isn’t worth your time.
  6. He gets off 100% of the time but you’re often left hanging. Once he’s had his orgasm, he’s done — he never makes the effort to make sure you’re just as satisfied. If you’re not, he doesn’t help you get there like a gentleman would. Not only that, but he doesn’t try to find out what turns you on, which means you’re often left unsatisfied in bed and made to take care of business yourself.
  7. He thinks being your boyfriend is enough. He’s your boyfriend, yes, but in title only. He seems to think that because he calls you his girlfriend and lets you call him your boyfriend that he’s put in enough effort. He does the bare minimum to keep the relationship going because he doesn’t think it should take any more work. That’s crap, obviously, and you deserve way better.
Maine Belonio is a twenty-something mom and writer who has a penchant for coffee, long distance running, Tolkien, Switchfoot, and Jesus. Find her broken, honest, and brave musings at mainebelonio.com.