Everyone is looking for their soulmate, and sometimes we look in all the wrong places. If the definition of a soulmate is someone who is an ideal match for you — someone who gets you 100 percent and has your back through thick and thin — is it possible that the person who’s your soulmate isn’t some perfect guy you haven’t met yet, but your best friend? After all, no one understands you quite like she does and you can’t imagine your life without her. Doesn’t that count? Of course it does, and so do these 7 other signs:
- She’s the first person you call when something good or bad happens. Every time something good happens, you call her. Every time something bad happens, you call her. You don’t call your mom. You don’t call your boyfriend. She’s the one you want to celebrate every happy moment and sad tear with, and most of the time, she’s crying or celebrating with you. That’s because you’re basically one person in two bodies, and you wouldn’t have it any other way.
- Fights with her hurt worse than fights with your boyfriend. Every passionate person fights — it means you care. But for some reason, fights with your boyfriend seem to pass easily and arguments with your parents don’t really bother you. Fights with your best friend, however, cause you to lose sleep. It’s probably because you’re the most afraid to lose her. After all, she’s a huge chunk of your heart.
- Her family is your family. Her family is more than just a bunch of people you see occasionally — they’re people you talk to on a regular basis and treat like your own flesh and blood. They’re a part of your life in a way that your own parents are (or aren’t). Going over to their house feels just like going home. Your BFF is an extension of who they are, and you love them, too.
- You literally can’t go more than a day without making some type of contact. Not talking to her is just not possible. If even a day has passed and no contact has ensued, you feel as though something is missing. You need to reach out and get in touch, because soulmates aren’t just people you occasionally chat with, they’re part of your identity.
- Her approval of your decisions means more than anyone else’s. Whether it’s buying a new car, moving to a new state, or taking a different job, no decision feels right unless she approves, as well. Ever have a boyfriend she didn’t like? How did that go? Not well, I presume, because it really doesn’t make sense to date someone she doesn’t like since you totally trust her judgment. She’s never been wrong before, and you won’t ever doubt her because of it.
- She’s your date to everything. No need to try and find a date to Friday night’s party; she’s it. No need to ask her to come with you to family dinner — that’s a given. Much like a significant other, showing up together to functions is just part of the relationship.
- If she’s in pain, so are you, and vice versa. You’re almost afraid to call her and tell her what happened because you know she’s going to be just as hurt as you are. She’ll cry with you and authentically feel your pain, and you do the same with her. If a boy broke her heart, he broke yours, too. If her sister said something mean, it her your feelings just as much. Loving somebody’s soul makes it hard for you to be OK when somebody hurts it.