Ex-boyfriends can always be a touchy subject. The last thing we want is to feel pain from a previous relationship, especially when the breakup was recent. They require time, and plenty of it, to truly process and get over. However, we eventually learn how to move on with our lives without that person, and while it’s difficult to get to this point, it’s not impossible. Once we’ve fully recovered, we can finally live life normally again without crying at the mention of his name. Here are 7 signs that you have officially moved on:
- You no longer stalk him on social media. In this day and age, social media makes so much harder to get over a person. Out of sight, out of mind doesn’t quote work when they always pop up in your news feed. You’ll know you’re over him once you can look back at old photos and smile instead of cry your eyes out.
- His name is brought up in conversation & you have no problem talking about him. After a breakup, you can’t avoid questions from your friends and family asking about what happened. You also can’t help it if someone brings up a past memory that happens to involve your ex. Just know that you’ll be able to talk about him and smile one day. When that day comes, you won’t get all choked up just at the sound of his name.
- You can run into him in public and feel completely normal. It’s a small world, after all. Unless you’ve completely fled the country, there’s always the chance of running into him in public. In the beginning, we always dread that first, awkward post-break up encounter. Once you can see your ex in public without creating a huge scene, you’ve already moved on.
- You no longer have the desire to hook up with him. One of the hardest things to get used is resisting the urge to hook up with him. After being with one person for a significant amount of time, you grow attached to his scent, the way he held you, and waking up to him in the morning. For a while, you’ll still long for him, but it will pass. You’ll know once you no longer want to text him asking to come over and “cuddle”.
- You’re able to date again. At first, your ex seems impossible to replace. You can’t imagine being with anyone else and it’s ten times worse when you thought that he was the one you were destined to be with. The thing is, if you broke up, it was for a reason. There are plenty of other fish in the sea. Get your feet wet and you’ll begin to date again when you’re ready.
- You’re okay with the fact he is dating again or are currently in a relationship. Eventually, your ex will begin dating again as well, and of course, you’ll somehow find out about her (probably through social media or getting the inside scoop from a mutual friend). Jealousy or resentment may be the initial reaction, but if you hear about the new girl and are happy for him, then you’re in a good place.
- You genuinely wish him well. Anger sometimes gets the best of us and we may secretly hope his life goes down the drain once you’re no longer together. The true sign of maturity and healing is hoping he finds happiness even though you’re not in the picture. He was once a huge part of your life and you should want him to be happy despite the fact that it didn’t work out between the two of you.
