If you’re the traditional type, you probably consider sex a two person activity, with the exception of those occasional solo sessions (hey, we all do it). But have you ever thought about what it would be like to add someone else to the mix? Sure, sex may seem like a highly personal, intimate activity, but sometimes it’s nice to let go of all your inhibitions and do something crazy. A threesome could be a great way to try something new – you’ll have the comfort of your partner being present while also having the chance to try something new. It’s not every day a threesome just shows up on your doorstep, so there are a few things to think about if you want to go out looking for one.

Pick your desired combination. First things first: are you interested in an MMF (two guys and one girl), an MFF (one guy and two girls), or a FFF (3 girls) threeway? Maybe you want to try all three at some point, but let’s take things one step at a time. You probably have some idea about which combo appeals to you the most. Have you fantasized about what it would be like to have another girl there? There are a lot of guys that’ll probably willing to help make your dream come true. Now’s your chance to find out.

Get over the jealousy thing. Are you both really okay with bringing another person into your shared bedroom? Nothing kills the mood faster than your boyfriend punching the other dude in the face for touching your boob. Guys might pretend like they are cool with a threesome at first, but they might just be putting on a brave face. Also, are you going to be okay with your guy touching another girl right in front of you? Save everyone the headaches and don’t do it unless you’re sure.

Get a good third person.You know that finding someone you click with in bed is not always easy, so finding another person that enhances both of your sex lives could be bordering on impossible. Does that mean you shouldn’t try? No way! Maybe a friend of a friend who has done this sort of thing before. Just consider if you’ll be able to look this person in the eye if you happen to see him or her again. You’ll be seeing their… everything, and vice versa, so be prepared for possible awkwardness. If you’re all adults about it, the weirdness should pass.

Establish the rules. You absolutely need to talk about what you’re comfortable with and what’s off limits before you jump into bed together. The key to a successful evening is ultimately going to depend on communication and respect between each threesome participant. If you know something will make you insanely jealous, don’t keep it to yourself. He can’t read your mind, so you can’t expect him to know you don’t want him to do her doggy style. Also, with the ground rules laid beforehand, there will be less pausing to discuss logistics and more getting it on.

Make sure you’re doing it for the right reasons. What’s the right reason? You’re 100% sure that a threesome is something you want to do, and you’re comfortable with the people you’re doing it with. Having a threesome because your boyfriend pressured you into it will most likely lead to jealousy and regret. Also, if he wants you to do something you aren’t comfortable with, think about whether he really, truly cares about you or not.

Set the mood. The timing and location of your threesome is going to add a lot to the overall experience. You don’t want to be rushed, worried someone might walk in or on a curfew due to your early morning meeting. Give yourselves lots of time, space and privacy to go all out, because we all know a half-assed threesome is not worth the time it’ll take to get naked. Don’t underestimate the value of a little mood music, dimmed lighting and a couple glasses of your drink of choice, either. Whatever will help you relax and enjoy the moment, do it.

Make sure everyone is satisfied. One more person present means one more orgasm that must be achieved before sex can be considered successful. Communication is key here, as well, but don’t worry – as long as you pay attention, commit to what you are doing and are as open as you can be, you’ll be on your way to a successful threesome. And if it doesn’t go perfectly the first time, all the more reason to try again (and again) until you get it right!

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