7 Struggles Brutally Honest Women Know All Too Well

7 Struggles Brutally Honest Women Know All Too Well ©iStock/teksomolika

We’re raised to believe that honesty is the best policy and that it’s wrong to lie to people. Some of us embrace that ideology and live by it day in and day out, while others drift into the new-found (and socially acceptable) method of lying and sugarcoating everything to keep the peace. Those of us who are always honest, even when the truth hurts, typically find ourselves facing a certain amount of disdain in today’s world because we acknowledge the truth all the time, even when it’s brutal.

  1. People ask leading questions and get mad when we answer them “wrong.” You know about these kind of questions. Someone asks a question like, “You’re not mad, right?” because they’re hoping to prompt you to give the answer they want. If you ask a brutally honest woman rhetorical questions, we give you truthful answers, and those answers aren’t always the ones you were hoping for. We’re not trying to upset you, but we also don’t feel the need to lie to you just to avoid confrontation.
  2. Our friends ask for advice, hoping we’ll back up the terrible decision they already made… and get mad when we don’t. We hate it when someone asks for our advice when they’re clearly just seeking validation for a decision that’s a mistake. Especially when it’s something monumentally idiotic, like giving her toxic ex one more chance, we have no qualms about telling our friends honestly that they’re making a mistake. We do so because we really care about them, but often our honest advice makes people dislike us, at least temporarily (until they realize we were right).
  3. We’re the kind of women you hate to shop with sometimes, but we’re really an asset to you. We’ll tell you if an outfit is unflattering or just the wrong style for your body type. We don’t believe in body-shaming, but we do believe in wearing the right styles and cuts that flatter your assets. We consider it a duty of true friendship to make sure you’re spending your hard-earned money on outfits that make you look awesome. Don’t take it as criticism; we’re being honest because we care.
  4. When asked for career advice, we encourage everyone to be as bold as we are, and we’re not sorry. The kind of women who are brutally honest are, by nature, also the type to be bold risk-takers, especially in the professional world. We don’t sit around doing the same job for years at a time with no promotions or raises: we know our own value. As a result, when we’re asked for career advice, we advise others to value themselves as well and not to put up with BS from their company. People who aren’t as bold sometimes don’t know what to do with our advice, but we can’t advise people to be less than their best; it’s just not who we are, and we’re not sorry.
  5. We jokingly poke fun at the ones we love most, but sometimes they think we’re actually being mean. Brutally honest women almost always have witty and sarcastic personalities, which means that when we like someone, we poke fun at them. If we’re completely nice and cordial to you, it means we either don’t like you or aren’t sure about you yet. When we start to gently rag on you about driving like a grandma or not having enough kitchen skills to boil water, it just means that we like you enough to be our true selves. Some people take it the wrong way, but we really can’t help how our personalities are and we aren’t intending to offend you.
  6. Guys don’t know how to handle our refusal to stroke their egos. When he asks how the sex was, hoping for praise and validation, we’ll just be honest. If he rocked our world, we have no problem letting him know, but we’ll also let him know if there’s something he could do differently to more effectively please us next time. We think of it as a public service, because everyone should strive to be at the top of their game. However, guys seem to have delicate egos these days, and they aren’t the best at handling constructive criticism.
  7. We feel like we’d be doing you a disservice by lying to you, and that makes it a moral issue. We’re honest because we truly believe honesty is the best policy. Honesty allows for open communication, skill improvement, relationship development, and paves the way for everyone to perform at their maximum potential. The truth isn’t easy to swallow sometimes, in the same way that some medicines are bitter going down, but we take them anyway because they create a positive result that we need. Let us be your necessary dose of truth; it’s ingrained in us, and, like it or not, you need truth sometimes.
Anna Martin Yonk is a freelance writer and blogger in sunny North Carolina. She loves hanging out with her goofy husband and two rescue dogs and can be found at the beach with a drink in hand whenever possible. You can find her on Instagram @mrsyonkdogmom or on her Facebook page.