7 Things To Know Before Dating An Introvert

If you’ve ready your share of dating advice, you’ll have noticed by now that people put a lot of stock in asking certain personality questions to see if they’re compatible to date. Usually it’s stuff about zodiac signs and whether or not the other person wants kids. But there’s one important thing that often gets overlooked and can become a big problem later in a relationship: whether the person you’re dating is an introvert or an extrovert. People who are introverts tend to be quieter, and feel energized when they’re alone. If you find yourself liking an introvert, there are seven brutally honest things you need to know before dating.

  1. We vibe with other introverts better. If your group of friends is full of extroverts, then you might want to keep this in mind. Introverts view other introverts more positively. It’s not personal, but extroverts and the world in general just zap a lot of our energy, to the point where we just want to retreat the comfort of our homes. Understanding that this isn’t personal is key, and if you’re an introvert yourself, that’s even better.
  2. We love one-on-one dates. Some people really love group dates, but you can’t do that very often with an introvert. Dates are all about having fun and getting to know each other better. An introvert tends to get overwhelmed in bigger groups, and it makes the experience less fun for us. This doesn’t mean you can’t ever have a double date, just keep them to a minimum.
  3. We’re not the clingy type. Yup, sometimes introversion doesn’t only affect how we interact with strangers, but who we date, too! Introverts need our alone time to recharge, and sometimes we need a time out. If you’re not the type to be constantly attached to your significant other, then this is a plus. However, if you’re the clingy type, you might want to adapt or find an extrovert.
  4. First dates are particularly hard for us. They tend to awkward for most people, but when you aren’t that open to begin with, then it could another story. You might need to work a little harder to get conversation going with us, but if you can get past that then you won’t be disappointed.
  5. We’re really good listeners. What are we doing when we’re not talking? Listening and observing! Introverts are great at giving advice because we take in so much information that others are probably overlooking. We’re also great partners, because listening is a big part of communicating, which is paramount to any successful relationship.
  6. We have no problem letting you have the spotlight. Be honest with yourself! Are you the type that needs to be the center of attention? An introvert usually doesn’t have a problem with that as long as you don’t pull us along with you. We’re secure enough to not need other people’s approval or be jealous of others who do.
  7. It takes us a while to express ourselves. Sometimes introverts are so in our own heads that we know what we want to say, but it can be hard to get it out in the right way. Will the other person just take it the wrong way? Is it really worth mentioning? What if they just don’t get it? It might take them a while to get there, but if you’re patient and do a little convincing, we’ll open up!
Nicole Weaver is a staff writer for YourTango and regularly contributes to Hollywood, The Bolde, and Proud2BMe. She is a lover of all things entertainment meaning she spends most of her nights in New York binge watching television shows. Follow her on Twitter at @nikkibernice.