7 Ways Strong, Confident Women Handle Rejection Like A Boss

7 Ways Strong, Confident Women Handle Rejection Like A Boss ©iStock/filadendron

No matter what a great catch we are, there’ll always be that guy who doesn’t see it and won’t be into us. Yes, his rejection will sting a bit, but strong, confident women knows it’s not the end of the world and has no reflection on who we are as a person. Like every negative thing that life throws at us, we can handle it like a boss. Here’s how:

  1. We don’t take it personally. We don’t think that just because we’re smart, intelligent and great to be around that we’ll have every guy on earth bound under our spell. We know there are some guys out there who won’t be into us, not because they don’t think we’re good enough, but because everyone has their own tastes. It’s just that simple.
  2. We don’t dwell on the downsides. We don’t deny that we were rejected, but we don’t overreact and create drama out of it either. We’ll just assess the situation, learn the lessons we need to learn, then move on. We prefer to concentrate on the positives than let the negatives drag us down.
  3. We refuse to let rejection define who we are. We’re mentally and emotionally strong enough to know that our identity and worth isn’t definable by how many guys have turned us down. We knows it’s way more complicated than that and that we have way more to offer the world than our relationship status. If a guy isn’t into us, that just means he’s not the right one for us. The end.
  4. We take it at face value.When a guy doesn’t return our affection, we don’t try to convince ourselves (or him) otherwise. We don’t stick around to see whether he’ll change his mind or realize he made a mistake. Instead, we get back out there and see if there are other guys who’ll see us and love us for who we really are.
  5. We’re never afraid to meet new guys again. Just because one guy broke our heart doesn’t mean that the rest of the guys in this world would. That’s why after we’ve picked ourselves up, we’re ready to get to know other guys and maybe go on a few dates with some of them. We don’t generalize or stereotype — we give every guy a shot.
  6. We allow ourselves time to heal. An unrequited love affair can be really painful and we give ourselves time to recover. We acknowledge the pain we’re feeling and we’re never ashamed to admit that at one point, what happened made us feel discouraged and embarrassed. We don’t punish ourselves just because the guy we had our eye on on didn’t feel the same way.
  7. We give ourselves the respect and love we deserve. We don’t believe that just because one guy didn’t love us, that means we’re unlovable. We don’t go crazy over being rejected because we know that it happens to everyone — guys included — and we can’t have it all. There will always be someone who doesn’t like us or understand us, but who cares? We love ourselves for who we are and we’re not changing a thing just to get a guy to love us.
Maine Belonio is a twenty-something mom and writer who has a penchant for coffee, long distance running, Tolkien, Switchfoot, and Jesus. Find her broken, honest, and brave musings at mainebelonio.com.