8 Mistakes Women Who Truly Know Themselves Never Make

Soul-searching is a serious journey that we all need to make in life. For women who’ve done this, the gift of truly knowing who they are awaits on the other side. Feeling confident in their personhood allows them to find joy in all the weird and wonderful qualities they possess and to live life to the fullest. It also means they never end up doing these things.

  1. Putting in all the effort in their relationships Women who know themselves know that they have better things to do with their time and energy than giving it all to a romantic partner, family member, or friend who doesn’t reciprocate it. While they’re always happy to go the extra mile for someone they love, they won’t be the only one keeping the relationship going.
  2. Accepting poor treatment They know that they’re smart, strong, funny, and have a lot of wonderful things to offer the people in their lives and the world at large. Whether it’s a boss repeatedly patronizing them or a boyfriend lying and cheating on them, these women won’t put up with that BS. Instead, they’ll make moves to change their situation, whether that means finding a new job or a new partner.
  3. Refusing to apologize Because they have such a strong sense of self, these women are perfectly aware that they’re not perfect and they’d never claim to be. That means they sometimes mess up and when they do, they’re more than willing to offer a genuine, heartfelt apology and to correct their mistakes. They certainly don’t lack humility.
  4. Chasing a guy who’s clearly not interested Again, they know what they have to offer and that any guy would be lucky to have them, so why would they go chasing after one who doesn’t realize how lucky he is to have their interest? They wouldn’t. If he’s blind enough to miss what’s right in front of him, he’s not worth it.
  5. Giving up when things get tough They’re strong and passionate, which means the idea of giving up when life throws some curveballs their way isn’t even a thought in their minds. They know they have what it takes to make it through any adversity and they’ll only come out stronger on the other side, so they don’t waste time on throwing themselves a pity party. Instead, they pick themselves up and push on.
  6. Pretending to be someone they’re not to please someone else They know who they are and feel pretty good about it, so why would they ever cover that up or change it just because other people might not “get them”? It’s pointless. They’re proud of the women they are and who they’re continuing to evolve to be. If people don’t like it, oh well.
  7. Settling for “good enough” They deserve the best, so there’s no way in hell they’ll ever accept less than that. Good enough might be fine for some people but it’s definitely not for them. They’ll hold out until something as amazing as them comes along. It has to be out there.
  8. Refusing to accept or embrace their flaws They don’t waste valuable time wishing they had perkier boobs or a smaller nose; they don’t hate themselves for feeling more introverted sometimes or for getting cranky when they’re hungry. Instead, they’ve fully accepted their flaws and come to love them as part of what makes them who they are. It’s as simple as that.
Jennifer has been the managing editor of Bolde since its launch in 2014. Before that, she was the founding editor of HelloGiggles and also worked as an entertainment writer for Bustle and Digital Spy. Her work has been published in Bon Appetit, Decider, Vanity Fair, The New York TImes, and many more.