8 Reasons He Hasn’t Texted You Back Yet

8 Reasons He Hasn’t Texted You Back Yet ©iStock/BraunS

Staring at your phone waiting for your crush to text back? I bet you’re racking your brain for what exactly could be keeping him from you. Don’t spend too much time obsessing, though, because odds are it’s something innocent. Here are 8 reasons he hasn’t texted you back yet:

  1. He’s at work. You want a man that has passion and takes his job seriously, so if you’re staring at your phone every weekday, remember that he has commitments, too, not just you.
  2. He’s with people. If you’re out with your friends or family, it’s just plain rude to be on your phone all night. I’ve definitely been guilty of not texting back while the party is still going, or even until the next day. 
  3. He’s just plain busy. If I’m busy doing something, I’m definitely not texting you back. If he’s focusing on something else, he’s probably trying to ignore all distractions, including your text. It’s nothing personal. He just has a life — would you want it any other way?
  4. He forgot you texted. If he was busy when he got your text, maybe he saw it or even read it, but just didn’t have the time to reply. When you no longer have that little notification, it’s easy to forget you were even contacted that day. So let him breathe — he’ll get back to you eventually.
  5. He’s stressed. Do you ever just have so much going on that you don’t feel like talking? Well, men get that way too. When you’re stressed, sometimes it feels better to shut the world out for a little while and just have some me time.
  6. He’s playing games. Most women are guilty of waiting an “appropriate” amount of time to text back so you don’t look desperate. Is it really that hard to believe that men do this, too? If you’re playing games, odds are, so is he.
  7. You came on too strong. Were you pushing him into a relationship too soon? If you bring up the future too fast, even if you aren’t implying a shared future, it can scare a man off. What easier way is there to end a fling than to simply stop texting back? Sure, it hurts, but learn your lesson and move on.
  8. He’s just not that into you. Think back — did you guys really click, or was the connection one-sided? Girls always want to jump to this fearful conclusion, when there could be so many other reasons he’s not texting back. Sometimes, it is the hard truth, though, and he’s just not into you.

If you’re offended every time you don’t get a text back, then you may just be a little too sensitive. It’s ridiculous to expect a man to text you back instantly, and even more ridiculous to assume the reason for delay is a bad one. Sometimes it is and sometimes it isn’t, but jumping to conclusions and being offended is a surefire way to scare him off for good.

Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.