Nice guys get such a bad rep and I’m sick of it. After all, who wouldn’t want a guy who’s kind, responsible, mature, likes to play it safe, and is always thinking about the future? Some people might think it’s boring to look at life so seriously and intentionally, but I think it’s hot! A partner who provides emotional security and a great 5-year plan is always a good thing. Here are some reasons that the lovable nice guy just might be your forever person.
- He doesn’t play games. This kind of guy won’t mess with your head. He wants you to know that he’s interested in you and he wants to show you right off the bat that he’s going to treat you the way you deserve to be treated. He doesn’t want to risk coming off as someone who isn’t serious and you get snatched up by some other guy. He’ll call and text when he says he’s going to and he’ll be intentional and honest with you about what he’s looking for. Goodbye, anxiety attacks! You will not be missed!
- He’s confident without being cocky. We all know that confidence is attractive, but there’s definitely a balance and it gets really annoying really fast when a guy loves himself to the point of being cocky and unlikable. Nice guys can still be confident but tend to be more humble. I don’t want to be with a guy who thinks I’m lucky to be with him. I want to be with a guy who thinks he won the lottery when he landed me and does what he can to assure me of that.
- He’s open-minded. Nice guys are the type of guys who are open to all different types of things and people and aren’t concerned with what the rest of society deems “cool.” There’s a stereotype out there that nice guys might be boring but it can be the total opposite! He might have really unique and interesting hobbies or opinions about the world that you never would have considered. Don’t write off the nice guy just because you think he won’t be adventurous enough for you. He may surprise you!
- He’s not afraid of a grand gesture. A lot of guys out there are worried about coming off as less manly or looking like nerds if they do really romantic things for their partners. We all love a good romantic gesture and your nice guy won’t shy away from reminding you of all the ways he adores you. Whether it’s a poem, a song, or a sweet and sentimental gift, you deserve a man who isn’t afraid to let the whole world know how much he loves you even if it exposes his softer side.
- He knows when to grow up. It’s great to be young and carefree but at some point, the party has to stop and life has to get serious. If you go out to the bars and clubs every night, chances are your performance at work is going to suffer and it might just cost you a promotion or pay raise. If you blow all your money on that vintage record player or signed sports jersey, you won’t have anything to put into savings for your future. Some people might think it’s lame if a guy wants to stay in instead of partying, save instead of spend, plan instead of wing it, but it shows how responsible and mature they are. It also gives you a glimpse into what a future with them could look like and is a relief to know they’d always be thinking of you.
- He treats you like the queen you are. Sure, his bros might call him “whipped” simply because he loves to spoil you, but he doesn’t care. You’re the most important person to him and they want to always make sure to treat you with the love and respect you deserve. I don’t want some guy who needs to show off to his friends that he’s the one in charge in the relationship. I want the guy who cherishes me and reciprocates all of the feelings and gestures that I show him.
- He doesn’t shy away from talking about the future. Immature guys tend to avoid talks of the future or any type of planning down the road with you. Maybe they’re afraid of commitment, maybe they’re afraid of growing up and having to make adult decisions and sacrifices, but the fact of the matter is, if he can’t even talk about the future with you, how does he expect you to believe he wants a future with you? That’s where the nice guys with their five-year plans win out. Talk about sexy!
- The trust between the two of you will be so real. Nice, dependable guys aren’t usually the type that feel the need to show off how good-looking or cool they are. Men that are super into themselves are such a turn-off for a myriad of reasons but hugely because of a lack of trust. How do you know he’s not going to flirt with every woman he works with or comes across at the gym? How can you trust that he’s not going to leave you for someone because he thinks he can “do better”? (Spoiler Alert: He can’t! You’re top tier.)
