When you finally meet a guy you feel like you could actually settle down with, it’s tempting to gloss over the parts of the relationship that don’t really gel. Every couple has their differences, and love isn’t perfect, but while your willingness to let stuff slide might work fine for now, how can you tell if you have a future together?
You’re open, honest, and don’t keep secrets. Communication is the most important things in a relationship. When things are rough and you’re not on the same page, you have to be able to work things out with your words. If you aren’t able to do that, it’s just not going to last.
You’re happy to be committed to each other and aren’t tempted to look elsewhere. There are people who are monogamous and those who are always on the lookout for the next best thing. It’s important to be happy with your partner and be unconditionally faithful — not just until something else comes along.
You speak the same love language. There are different ways to tell someone you love them and they’re all valid, but everyone has their preferences for how they give and receive it. Find out what you and your partner’s love language is online. Even if they don’t match up, as long as you’re willing to compromise and show your partner you love them in their way, it should all work out.
Your vision of the future is in sync. Not everyone wants to get married and have kids, so it’s best to make sure you’re on the same page about this ASAP. Some issues just can’t be compromised, so it’s important that your vision for your future relationship lines up.
You want the same things out of day-to-day life. If you’re an active person, you’ll probably want someone who’ll go to the gym with you. If you’re a homebody, you’ll want someone who loves staying in, as well. It’s fine to take time to pursue your own goals or interests, but if one of you is a couch potato while the other is a workaholic, there’s no chance it’ll work out.
The orgasms you give each other are off the charts. This is also one of the most important things for a relationship. Are you open to the same things in the bedroom? Are you able to talk to each other about sex and take direction? These are very important things to know in order to figure out if the fireworks in the bedroom will last.
You have stuff in common, but enough differences to keep things interesting. Couples don’t have to do everything with each other (and you probably shouldn’t), but you should have some interests in common so that you have something to talk about and connect through. Opposites might attract, but they don’t make for a long-term relationship.
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