22 Signs You’re Meant To Be Together And Always Were

When you finally meet someone you feel like you could actually settle down with, you can’t help but wonder if your connection was written in the stars. What are the signs that you’re meant to be together? Whether or not you believe in the idea of soulmates doesn’t matter. If you relate to any of these things, it’s clear fate has brought them to you.

  1. You’re open, honest, and don’t keep secrets. Communication is the most important thing in a relationship. When things are rough and you’re not on the same page, you have to be able to work things out with your words. If you can’t do that, it’s just not going to last.
  2. You’re happy to be committed to each other and aren’t tempted to look elsewhere. There are people who are monogamous and those who are always on the lookout for the next best thing. It’s important to be happy with your partner and be unconditionally faithful — not just until something else comes along.
  3. You speak the same love language. This is one of the biggest signs you’re meant to be. There are different ways to tell someone you love them and they’re all valid, but everyone has their preferences for how they give and receive it. Find out what your and your partner’s love language is online. Even if they don’t match up, as long as you’re willing to compromise and show your partner you love them in their way, it should all work out.
  4. Your vision of the future is in sync. Not everyone wants to get married and have kids, so it’s best to make sure you’re on the same page about this ASAP. Some issues just can’t be compromised, so it’s important that your vision for your future relationship lines up.
  5. You want the same things out of day-to-day life. This is one of the most important signs you’re meant to be. If you’re an active person, you’ll probably want someone who’ll go to the gym with you. If you’re a homebody, you’ll want someone who loves staying in, as well. It’s fine to take time to pursue your own goals or interests, but if one of you is a couch potato while the other is a workaholic, there’s no chance it’ll work out.
  6. The orgasms you give each other are off the charts. This is also one of the most important things for a relationship. Are you open to the same things in the bedroom? Are you able to talk to each other about sex and take direction? These are very important things to know in order to figure out if the fireworks in the bedroom will last.
  7. You have stuff in common but enough differences to keep things interesting. Couples don’t have to do everything with each other (and you probably shouldn’t), but you should have some interests in common so that you have something to talk about and connect through. Opposites might attract, but they don’t make for a long-term relationship.
  8. You feel a connection you can’t explain. Sometimes you simply can’t explain the connection you have with someone. You’re just drawn to them and can’t stay away from them (not that you tried!). It’s like there’s an invisible string holding you together and you’re powerless to resist it. This kind of connection is rare, to say the least, and it’s worth holding onto.
  9. When you’re with them, you feel safe. When you’re in a relationship, you want to feel like the person you’re with has your best interests at heart. You want to feel that they care about you, that they have your back, and that they would never let anything happen to you if they could help it. If you feel this way with them, that’s one of the clearest signs you’re meant to be.
  10. You accept them as they are. When you first start dating someone, it’s easy to put them on a pedestal and believe that everything about them is perfect. But no matter how well-suited you are, nobody is perfect and you’re going to see their flaws sooner or later. If you know them at their worst and love them despite this, you stand a pretty good chance of going the distance.
  11. No one makes you laugh like each other. This may not seem like a big deal but it really is. The truth is that life is going to throw a lot of crap your way over the years and if you can’t laugh about it, it could just take you down entirely. You also need to be able to laugh at yourself and not take yourself too seriously, as well as your partner. If the two of you laugh together until you’re literally about to pee your pants (or you actually do), that’s one of the best signs you’re meant to be.
  12. You balance each other out perfectly. Maybe you have zero patience and your partner is the most laid-back person ever. Perhaps they have a temper but you’re able to take things in stride much more easily. Whatever your differences, they perfectly complement one another to create a harmonious balance and it feels amazing.
  13. They push you to be the best version of yourself and vice versa. If you’re looking for signs that you’re meant to be, look no further than this one. If you can count on your partner to push you to be the very best version of yourself and they told you that you do the same for them, congrats. You’re in a healthy, fulfilling relationship.
  14. You’re completely yourself around them. Never for a second do you worry about how you look in front of them. You act silly, goofy, and all-around fun. Better yet, they’re always one step behind you, feeding off your good energy. You know you can just be yourself, flaws and all, knowing they accept you no matter what. Neither of you feels the need to change, nor has one of you said that to the other.
  15. You have similar interests. You can name at least three things off the top of your head that you and your partner have in common. Whether it’s hobbies, TV shows, or music, there’s always something you two enjoy together. This means you can do these things collectively as cute date ideas. You can attend concerts, take a pottery class, watch a new show… the possibilities are endless!
  16. You confide in them. When it comes to being vulnerable, you feel safe with them. You know they won’t share your secrets or use them against you. Saying your honest opinion, whether about them or something else, they’ll listen. They don’t judge or overreact. The same goes for you. You create a safe space for them to be able to tell you how they feel or if they want to get something off their chest. There’s never a moment you question how they’ll perceive you after you confide, only that they still love you wholeheartedly.
  17. You have each other’s backs. You two make the perfect team. No matter what’s going on in the world, you’re always there for one another. You show up and give what the other one needs at that moment. Nothing seems hard to conquer, so long as you guys are together. The world is no longer a scary place that you need to face alone. With them by your side, you can do anything. Even when you don’t think you need them, they’ll be there to catch you when you fall.
  18. You laugh together. Sometimes, things don’t always go as planned. That’s just how life goes. If you both understand this, the hard times won’t seem so crushing. You’ll laugh together at what doesn’t go right but you’ll also giggle because of what does. You make each other happy. You know how to have fun as a couple. Laughing at yourself and with each other provides a good level of comfortability. No one wants to be with someone who takes life too seriously.
  19. You don’t feel the need to do something all the time. Forcing each other to go out on dates isn’t a recipe for success. If anything, it’ll create unexpected rifts. When you two are together, you don’t feel the need to do something. You don’t go automatically into planning mode when spending time with each other. You both enjoy each other’s company but are totally fine doing separate activities. And the silence? It doesn’t freak either of you out – you’re happy just to be around them.
  20. Your future isn’t the same without them. When you think five, even 10 years down the road, it involves them. Whether that includes getting married and starting a family or just growing old together, you feel content. It just feels right. You also understand how people evolve. Along the road, you both might pick up different hobbies, opinions, or interests. What’s important is to grow together, not apart. Can’t picture the future without them? That’s one of the biggest signs you’re meant to be.
  21. You’re a better person because of them. They encourage you to be your own person. They’re also there to give you a nudge of motivation when needed. And when it comes down to it, they’re your biggest cheerleader. Because of them, you grew into a better person, one you can live with every day. They’re always there for you, reminding you of who you are when you feel lost in the world.
  22. Fights aren’t the end of it all. Relationships aren’t perfect. There will be times when arguments arise. What matters is how you get through the tough times. Having a fight doesn’t have to spell the end of the relationship. When there are disagreements between the both of you, you take the time to listen to each other’s point of view. You take into consideration their feelings and instead of fanning the flames, you work towards a resolution. You know when and how to apologize and not hold grudges. You also know better than to go to bed angry.
Nicole Weaver is a staff writer for YourTango and regularly contributes to Hollywood, The Bolde, and Proud2BMe. She is a lover of all things entertainment meaning she spends most of her nights in New York binge watching television shows. Follow her on Twitter at @nikkibernice.