8 Struggles Of Women Who Are Constantly Friendzoned By Guys

8 Struggles Of Women Who Are Constantly Friendzoned By Guys

In the dating world, it seems like guys are always the ones complaining about being friendzoned by women. Unfortunately, that same thing also happens to good women every day, and it sucks just as much for us. Usually, we’re the ones who march to the beat of our own drums and do so unapologetically. We have no desire to change ourselves, but we still have plenty of struggles when it comes to relating to the opposite sex.

  1. We have so much in common with guys, and it sucks when they don’t appreciate it. We see the big picture, and we see how compatible we’d be on every level, but guys don’t see it because they’re too busy looking for a girl who’s more stereotypical.
  2. We’re chill and laid back… to a fault, it seems. As much as guys complain about dramatic women, they keep pursuing them. At the same time, when they meet a woman who’s as chill and laid back as they are, they almost immediately throw us in the friendzone. It almost seems like they want drama, right?
  3. We’re fun, wild and sexy, but they’d rather chase the uptight girl. It must be an issue of always wanting what you can’t have. We know the company and the sex are going to be terrific, but they’d rather mumble “Let’s be friends” and chase the girl who doesn’t want them.
  4. We are feminine to a degree — we’re just straightforward and we don’t play games. The type of woman who’s usually friendzoned isn’t completely allergic to femininity; we enjoy clothes and makeup as much as any other woman. Our big difference is in personality; we won’t apologize for telling it like it is and we don’t play games.
  5. The connection is real — they just ignore it. Denial is not just a river in Egypt. We sometimes go into denial about a potential connection as well, but guys are sometimes worse about it because they’re more concerned about what kind of woman their buddies think they should have than the one they’re actually compatible with.
  6. We want/deserve love and a future, too. We like being as awesome as we are, and we just wish someone appreciated everything we bring to the table.
  7. We don’t want to be more like other women. We’re different and we like it; we have no desire to change ourselves in order to be bumped up on the male priority list.
  8. We’re cool with starting off as friends, but don’t treat us like a “bro.” We know that the best relationships start off as friendships, but we want to be treated like the completely awesome women we are as well. We know we deserve it.
Anna Martin Yonk is a freelance writer and blogger in sunny North Carolina. She loves hanging out with her goofy husband and two rescue dogs and can be found at the beach with a drink in hand whenever possible. You can find her on Instagram @mrsyonkdogmom or on her Facebook page.
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