8 Things A Guy Does When He Wants You To Be His Wife

Since guys are notorious for not sharing our feelings, it’s unlikely that we’ll ever just come out and tell you that we want to marry you one day. However, if you pay close attention, your boyfriend’s actions will usually tell the whole story. When you notice a guy doing one of these things, it often means that he’s looking to make you his wife in the not-too-distant future.

  1. He talks about the future. Whenever he talks about months or years ahead, he sprinkles you into the conversation. If you’ve been together for a long time, he probably won’t talk about his future around you if you’re not in it. Even if he doesn’t mention you specifically, it’s kind of implied that you’ll be there too. Of course, if he uses words like “we,” it’s pretty clear that you’ll get married one day.
  2. He gives you a key to his home. We can all see where this is going, right? First, you get a spare key to his home. Next, you move in together. Finally, you end up getting married. Most guys aren’t going to make the first step in giving you a key to their house/apartment if they don’t think they’ll end up doing the other two as well. The caveat is if they feel pressured into making a big gesture. They might be giving you their key just to appease you. But if it comes unprompted, it’s a strong indicator that he’s ready to make a commitment.
  3. You get a pet together. If he has the idea of adopting a dog or cat, it’s a safe bet that he’s thought about marrying you. It’s kind of like a test run for you two becoming a family one day. Of course, it’s one thing for him to agree to share a pet, but it’s another thing for him to make the suggestion. If it’s the latter, it shows a strong interest in marrying you one day.
  4. He wants you at every family event. This might be the most obvious sign that a guy wants to marry you. It’s great if he wants to introduce you to his parents and family. If he keeps inviting you to family events and doesn’t want to go without you, that’s a whole other level. This is a strong indication that he views you as being part of his family. If you’re present at every family function no questions asked, he more or less sees you as his wife already. It could be just a matter of time until it becomes official.
  5. He brings around his married friends. If he has both married friends and single friends, you can tell a lot about his intentions by who he hangs out with the most. When he hangs around his married friends more, it means he identifies with them more. He’s starting to see himself as more ready to be a husband. A big part of that is probably because he’s starting to view you as his future wife.
  6. He’s careful with money. You know the old expression “follow the money,” right? It can apply to relationships too. If you notice a guy is suddenly more careful with his money, something is up. First, it could be a sign that he’s maturing and thinking more long-term. That could be a sign that he’s starting to think marrying you and having a family is in his future. It could also be a sign that he’s starting to save up for an engagement ring. Needless to say, that means he intends to marry you.
  7. He shares everything. Even in serious relationships, guys tend to keep a few secrets to themselves. When you notice your boyfriend is sharing anything and everything about himself, you know this relationship is different. Most guys won’t be that forthcoming unless they think they’ll be with that person forever. It means he doesn’t want there to be any secrets between you two. All healthy marriages are open and honest, of course.
  8. He stays after seeing you at your worse. No judgment here, but I think we all know we have moments we wish we could take back or erase. We get moody and emotional and go a little crazy. It’s always a good sign if a guy stays by your side during and after a meltdown. Our instinct during this kind of situation is to run and hide until it’s safe. But if he stays by your side, it’s clear that he’s interested in marrying you. No guy would do that if they didn’t think you might be his wife one day.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.