8 Things That Happen When You’re Old Fashioned About Love

When it comes to love, some women are just old fashioned. There’s nothing wrong with that, but it does make dating a whole lot more complicated. If you’re not really into modern courtship techniques, you can probably relate to the following:

  1. You don’t make the first move. It’s not that you’re afraid of rejection, you just prefer for men to chase you rather than waste your energy (and time) trying to get their attention. You’re a catch and you know it, so if he’s worth it then he’ll put in the effort to court you.
  2. You don’t waste your time on men who won’t commit. A fear of commitment is so childish to you. If he was really interested then he’d be more than happy to settle down into a relationship. You refuse to beg for a guy’s love or even his attention. If he won’t commit, then you’re moving on, because you don’t waste your time playing games.
  3. You expect him to actually pick up the phone and call. Texting is just not enough — you want a guy who cares enough to dial your number and have a real conversation. You want a guy you can actually talk to, not just exchange a few flirty messages with during your work day. Any casual relationship involves texting but the serious guys know how to pick up the phone.
  4. You don’t believe chivalry is dead. A guy should still open doors for you. Why? Because it’s polite. He shouldn’t be afraid to make gestures big and small to show he cares — you’d do the same for him. Chivalry isn’t dead, or at least not in your world. It’s about thinking of your partner’s wants and needs and making them a priority. Is that so much to ask?
  5. You care about his relationship with your family. Family is important to you. You want to have kids someday so you’re looking for a real family man. You want a guy who’ll be happy to meet your parents and fit in with your siblings. After all, if this is the man you’re going to marry then your family will be his, so it’s important they get along.
  6. You think it’s common courtesy for a man to pay on the first date. He was the one who asked you out, after all. He scheduled the time, planned the date and invited you along. So why shouldn’t he be the one to pay? If he seriously wanted to go out with you then he wouldn’t let a dollar sign stand in the way. You’re not a gold digger but you do want a guy who can afford to treat you, at least on the first date.
  7. You want your parents’ blessing. You’re not asking for their permission to be with the guy you choose but you do want their blessing. You want them to be happy for you and the love that you’ve finally found, so when it comes time for Mr. Right to ask for your hand, you want him to ask your mother and father for their blessing first.
  8. You won’t live together before you get married. It doesn’t even have to be related to religious beliefs, but you want marriage to be special. You don’t understand how it would feel any different if you were already living together. It might be old fashioned, but if he’s the right guy, you won’t feel the need to try it before you buy it.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

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