8 Things Unemotional Women Will Never Understand

One of the most common stereotypes about women is that we’re overemotional and have no control over our feelings. While that may be the case for some of us, for others, it couldn’t be further from the truth. For us unemotional women, there are certain things we’ll just never understand:

  1. Crying in public. Sometimes when you’re out and about in the world, you get bad news, see a cute animal when you’re PMSing or see your ex with his new girlfriend or whatever and you suddenly feel like bawling your eyes out. You’re human and you have every right to your feelings, but can you not excuse yourself to the bathroom or wait until you get home or something? Crying in public is just not an option for us — though we don’t cry very often in private, either.
  2. Being called a sociopath. Being unemotional doesn’t mean we’re heartless, potential murderers with personality disorders and no conscience. That seems a touch dramatic! Not liking emotion doesn’t make us cold-hearted and it definitely doesn’t make us psychotic — you’ve been watching way too many episodes of Criminal Minds if you think that.
  3. How to comfort people. What are we supposed to do when someone’s crying right next to us? Ask them what’s wrong? Maybe give them a pat on the back? Since we have no idea, a lot of us slowly walk out of the room and get someone who actually knows what they’re doing to take our place. We wish we knew what to say to comfort the people we care about, but the only thing that ever comes to mind is, “Everything is going to be okay.” And we’re usually saying that to reassure OURSELVES because we’re the ones freaking out.
  4. Wanting to be around other people when we’re upset. Unemotional women actually do have emotions. We may not show them to you, but they exist. When we’re upset, sad or angry, we have to distance ourselves from the situation. Some people want to be around others when emotions are high, but we can’t deal. Leave us alone until we’ve had time to process my feelings and hopefully, let them go.
  5. Mincing words so we don’t hurt anyone’s feelings. It’s always better to be blunt, at least we think so! Life’s too short to not tell people exactly what we’re thinking. We’re the kind of friends who will tell you you’re being needy and obsessive when you spend more than five minutes complaining about your boyfriend. You’re welcome. The more honest we are with you, the more we care!
  6. Opening up to anyone who will listen. When unemotional women decide to show emotion, you should take it seriously and realize how rare of an occurrence you’re privy to. We rarely express our feelings publicly, but when we do, we automatically feel incredibly fragile. There’s nothing more terrifying than opening up, especially when we aren’t in the habit of doing so. Take our emotions seriously or you’ll probably never see them again.
  7. People who go from zero to crazy in 60 seconds. Seriously, what’s wrong with people? Sometimes we can understand why guys call us crazy as a gender — some women lose it in the blink of an eye. Everything is going fine and then out of nowhere they remember that one time six months ago when their boyfriend smiled at the girl walking past them on the elevator. I’m not saying people shouldn’t show emotion, but sometimes those emotions need to be checked.
  8. Why we just can’t show emotion. We don’t think we’re better than emotional women! In fact, we’re slightly jealous of them. We wish we felt comfortable enough to hold our boyfriends’ hands in public, and it sucks that we cringe at every slightly romantic thing someone says to us. We’re the worst first date ever because people can’t read us, which means second dates are a rare commodity. Being emotional is nowhere near a curse! Trust us, it’s sometimes better to be overly emotional than not emotional at all.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.