8 Thoughts You Have When You’re Happily Single At A Wedding

All the weddings we attend in our 20s and 30s are bound to make us question our own lives, especially if we’re not in relationships of our own. Being single is awesome, but even the most independent among us wonder what it’d be like to spend forever with someone.

Single people aren’t all alike. Some are ready to get married tomorrow, while others would prefer to roll solo for as long as possible. If you’re in the latter group, you’re probably approaching your friend’s big day from a totally different perspective and the thoughts you have are the last thing anyone would expect.

  1. Forever? Really? That’s terrifying! Forever is the kind of promise you can’t comprehend making. You can’t imagine committing to stay in the same city forever or listen to a certain band for the rest of your life, much less spending the rest of your life devoted to just one person.
  2. Those vows are intense. It’s jarring when you think about the fact that your friend just promised to stand by this guy through everything life might bring. What if he gets in a terrible accident and is paralyzed, gets arrested and racks up a ton of legal fees, or becomes terminally ill? How does one deal with that? Is love really enough to overcome hurdles like that?
  3. Oh look! Open bar! Alcohol can be your best friend when you’re single. Sometimes you feel like you’re in a completely different mindset than everyone else there, so when you have the opportunity to kick back with unlimited beverages and dance, you’ll take it.
  4. They look so happy. Are they thinking the same scary thoughts you are, or have they somehow figured out how to move past them? If they’ve successfully defeated their doubts, how did they do it? They look so happy, peaceful, and ready for the next steps in their life together. It’s bizarre.
  5. Is there something wrong with me? The girl you used to do shots, dance all night, and go on 3 am Taco Bell runs with is now settling down and committing to married life. Why are you not feeling that way? There must be something wrong with you. Will you ever be like that, or will you still be single and taking shots of Fireball with strangers when you’re 60?
  6. All this mushy stuff is making me sick. Most of you feels nauseous from all the romance, but there’s also a tiny part that finds it just a little cute. It’s definitely time to go get another drink and hang out by the bar until they put on another fun song that doesn’t require a partner to dance with.
  7. I’m about to go home alone again. Of course you’re looking forward to changing into yoga pants and watching Netflix until it’s time to sleep in that nice queen size bed you don’t have to share, but it’d also be nice to get laid. Isn’t one of the groomsmen single?
  8. I think I want that life someday. As scary and daunting as it seems, no one wants to be alone forever. Eventually, we all want to overcome our fears and find that one person we can trust completely. Being alone and being your own backbone 100% of the time can get exhausting sometimes. Just because you’re single as hell now doesn’t mean you always will be, so hang in there.
Anna Martin Yonk is a freelance writer and blogger in sunny North Carolina. She loves hanging out with her goofy husband and two rescue dogs and can be found at the beach with a drink in hand whenever possible. You can find her on Instagram @mrsyonkdogmom or on her Facebook page.