As carefree and independent women, we all share one common value: we all have struggles, especially when it comes to dating. Even if our particular challenges are different, much of what we go through is the same, and we’re all fighting the same battles:
- We’re struggling with our own insecurities. We’ve all got a history that makes us who we are and makes us feel the way we do about not only ourselves, but about dating. Even the strongest of women have these weaknesses, and there’s nothing wrong with that.
- We’re guilty of overanalyzing text messages. We dissect and interpret text messages from the guys we’re dating (or are hoping to date). We get irritated by long response times and wonder what that winky face really means. We question when we should reply, or if we’ll seem too eager when we reply right away without hesitation. We’re all trying to figure out the rules, and confusing ourselves in the process. The truth is that no one has the right answer, because every situation and person is unique.
- We’ve been broken before. We’ve all felt heartbreak in one way or another. Some of us have been cheated on, suffered emotional abuse from losers, or been blindsided and left by the one we thought we would spend our life with. We’ve all cried the same tears over disappointments and from saying goodbyes that would never result in hellos ever again.
- We have flaws. None of us are perfect, and yet sometimes it feels like we’re searching for perfection. Not every match is going to be a perfect fit, which makes the struggle much harder when we seem to be constantly meeting and weeding through bachelors who don’t love exactly who we are. The right person will love you in spite of your shortcomings, of course, and vice versa.
- We’re judged for our character. We’re judged by the way we talk, the way we act, and the way we live our lives. We’re “too independent,” “too shy and quiet,” “too loud,” or “too damaged” to be given our chance. We’re all just trying to stand in our own truth hoping that eventually the dots will connect to the person who won’t judge us at all.
- We’re scared to be vulnerable. We’re scared to take a leap of faith and to let our hearts sink deeply into the person we feel we could really care about. It’s because we’re all harboring our fears, questioning our insecurities, and being afraid that our flaws will lead us to broken places we’ve seen and been to before.
- We make mistakes. We’ve all said and done things in the past that taught us lessons along the way. It’s OK to make mistakes as long as we’re learning in the process. We all feel regret about something we’ve done, but it only makes us better at navigating our dating struggles going forward.
- We’re still looking for love. We all have different stories, but we’ve got the same goal. We’re all looking for love, and there’s no right or wrong way to find it. Our unique personalities and characters will bring on new challenges, but in the end, we’re all on the same team.
