Rejection hurts, no matter how confident you are. But when you are more confident within yourself, you tend to handle rejection differently from someone with a low self-esteem. So, to respond to rejection with grace, you just have to follow a few simple steps. Here’s how the most confident women handle rejection.
- Remember that the person rejecting them isn’t evil. It’s really hard to remember in the moment, when you’ve just been rejected and your feelings are hurt. But the person rejecting you isn’t evil. Maybe the way they went about it was unkind, which makes this even more difficult to understand. But if they were nice and sensitive about the rejection, try not to hate them. Remember that everyone is entitled to go out with who they want. That person doesn’t have to keep seeing you the way you don’t have to keep seeing people you’ve rejected in the past. And if it makes you feel better, you don’t want someone who can’t see how awesome you are anyway!
- Don’t get mean. If you feel a lot of anger towards the person who rejected you, that’s okay. What matters is how you respond to that anger. So, to handle rejection with grace, you can’t lash out at the person who rejected you. Then you’d be no better than those men who are nice until a girl rejects them, at which point they turn into Satan and unleash a tirade of misogynistic insults at her. Don’t stoop to that level. It’s okay to feel how you feel, but acting gracefully means taking the high road.
- Avoid begging or trying to change the person’s mind. Taking the high road involves accepting the rejection with dignity. Avoid begging them to reconsider or trying frantically to change their mind. Remember, at the end of the day, you don’t want someone who doesn’t want you. You deserve someone who keeps wanting you every day. You deserve better.
- Embrace the sting of rejection. Rejection hurts, whether it’s from a job, a date, or something else. Acknowledge that and let yourself feel it. It takes time to get over the pain of being rejected, so don’t feel like you have to bounce back straight away. If you feel like getting back into the dating scene, great! But if not, it’s okay. That way, you can take the time you need to get over the sting and move on.
- Vent their feelings in a healthy way. To get over the pain of rejection, you can try venting your feelings in a healthy way. Note, that doesn’t mean sending abusive messages to the person who rejected you. But it can mean talking to your friends, swapping rejection stories, writing an open letter you’ll never send, writing a song, screaming into a pillow, or anything else. Again, grace isn’t about not having feelings. It’s about being able to control those feelings and grow through them in a healthy way.
- Engage in self-care and compassion. You should always practice practice self-care. But after a rejection, you’ll need a little extra TLC. You need to be extra kind to yourself. So make an effort to practice more self-care than usual. If you need to, cancel an appointment and have the afternoon off. Take a day to be lazy. Visit a spa. Spend time in nature or with your pets. Watch your favorite movie. Self-care doesn’t need to be expensive, but it does need to contribute to you feeling better. It’s about improving your well-being. Make your needs and wants a priority and remind yourself that you’re great, regardless of what the person who rejected you thinks.
- Remind themselves that one person’s opinion doesn’t matter. To handle rejection with grace, it’s very helpful to understand that one person’s opinion just doesn’t matter. Honestly, it doesn’t matter what they think. Go over all the things that make you great, all the things that the person who rejected you couldn’t see or couldn’t appreciate. And remember that there will be other people out there who can see your good points.
- Get back out there again. It’s okay to take time out to heal. But once you’ve healed, deal with rejection by getting right back out there. That’s the ultimate way to show the person, and the world, that one rejection isn’t going to stop you from living your life. So if you would like to keep dating, don’t let a past rejection get in the way of that. You deserve to be happy!