Being an old fashioned woman in the modern world can pose some serious challenges, especially when it comes to finding love. The status quo just doesn’t interest us — we’re looking for something deeper, which isn’t always easy to find. Here are the ways those of us with old souls love differently:
- Our version of dating is a bit old-fashioned.Call us nuts, but we think relationships are more fulfilling if they’re built on a solid foundation of communication, trust, and actual life goals. To some people, it’s easier and less scary to stick to no-strings-attached hookups and casual dating. We don’t see the point; if we’re not looking for anything serious, we’d rather stay single until we’re ready for a real relationship.
- We focus on one person at a time.Thanks to hookup culture and general indifference about commitment, it has become more common to date multiple people at once in an attempt to keep the options open. To us, that strategy is completely unappealing. If we’re trying to get to know someone and find out if they’re a good match, we prefer to give them our undivided attention.
- We aren’t capable of having casual sex.If we try, we usually end up catching a few pesky feelings, because that’s how we operate. For us, sex isn’t just physical; it’s an entire experience that connects us with another. Typically, we end up realizing this and focusing a lot more on making an actual connection with someone because that’s what makes sex amazing for us.
- We aren’t afraid to use the L word if it’s real.These days, saying those three little words to someone can be enough to make them run. We’re quite the opposite; we’re not rushing to say the L word too quickly, but we won’t hesitate if we’re really feeling it. Truthfully, it’s just too difficult for us to hold it in when we’re having those feelings.
- We absolutely don’t believe in cheating.When we make a commitment, we take it seriously. If we decide a relationship isn’t working out, we’ll end it but we won’t cheat. We see infidelity as one of the most disrespectful and hurtful things someone can do, so we just can’t do that to someone we care about.
- We see marriage as a work in progress.These days, not everyone wants to get married. The ones who do decide to take the plunge sometimes see it as the end of their fun single life rather than the beginning of an incredible adventure. We’re exactly the opposite; we look forward to embarking on that forever journey with someone special and we most definitely won’t miss being single.
- We don’t want to play house.The problem with moving in together too quickly is that it can ruin the actual progress of a relationship. Our goal is to have an actual spouse, not a pretend one, so we’d rather wait until we’re sure the relationship is headed somewhere real before taking that step.
- We don’t want to modernize our dating standards.Most of us, at some point or another, have tried to think about dating differently in order to make it work with someone we liked, and it was a hard lesson. The whole point of dating is to find someone who makes us happy; we’ll never be happy if we have to play it cool and hide our real feelings/life goals in order to avoid scaring someone off. Don’t try to change us; we’ll wait for someone who wants the same kind of relationship we dream of.
