The scariest part about liking someone is the possibility that the feelings aren’t mutual. In the beginning, the butterflies make us giddy and excited, but then they start to fade away and we suddenly get suspicious that he might not be the right person for us or that we might get hurt. And so, the easier route is to just brush those feelings aside and act like we don’t really care. We create excuses in our heads to avoid getting our hearts broken. These are the different ways in which we try talk ourselves out of liking a guy.
- He’s too nice. Since when has being “too nice” been a bad thing? For some reason, we always run away from the nice guys. It almost seems uncomfortable or unnatural for a guy to be nice to us because we may have forgotten what it’s like to be treated properly. Being too nice shouldn’t be an excuse for not liking a guy. Nice guys should not always finish last.
- He’s not as successful. Women these days have set the bar pretty high for men. We are more independent than ever before and we have longer a list of standards that can be quite intimidating. If he’s not as successful as you, then it’s fine. Times are changing and this shouldn’t be an issue. Instead, be proud of yourself for how much you’ve accomplished.
- You’re not as successful. Remember, it’s not a competition. You don’t need to be more successful than him. Just remind yourself that you ARE good enough. Don’t let his job title or accomplishments scare you away.
- There’s too much of an age gap. Age and maturity don’t necessarily always go hand in hand. If the timing is right and you’re both ready for a relationship, then go for it. Age shouldn’t be used to discriminate against someone who may actually be the right one for you.
- You can’t do the whole long-distance thing. Every relationship is different. Some people can handle long-distance relationships and some can’t, but you shouldn’t let distance stop you if you really care about someone. If they think he’s worth it, then he’ll travel to get to you and vice-versa. Miles don’t separate you from your best friend, so they shouldn’t separate you from someone you really like either.
- He’s not your type. Just because you dated the jock or the musician in high school doesn’t mean you’re bound to dating those same guys. As we get older, our “type” can change because we change as people. Priorities shift and the qualities that we look for in a person are different than they were before. Step outside of your comfort zone and remember that opposites do attract.
- You’re too busy for a relationship. Everyone is busy nowadays, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t make time for people that matter. If he’s making a conscious effort to show you how much he cares, then you should recognize that and clear your schedule for him if he’s really trying to spend time with you.
- It’s a waste of time. This is the kind of attitude that makes us close-minded to ever trying anything new because we don’t want to invest our time into someone who might not end up being worth it. Unfortunately, we never know unless we try. All you can do is hope for the best and prepare for the worst.
- He’ll just end up breaking your heart. Heartbreaks and breakups happen and we can’t control it. We never know who will hurt us or who we may end up hurting. Instead of closing yourself off, give it a chance. Of course, you still need to protect your heart, so make sure you still keep an eye out for any warning signs.
