You and your partner must have mutual respect for each other in order for your relationship to feel secure, equal, and to maintain trust. Unfortunately, not everyone you date is going to give you the courtesy and consideration you deserve. Here are some signs that your guy doesn’t respect you so you can get out of the relationship ASAP.
- He doesn’t remember the things that are important to you. We all like to joke that men can’t remember anything, which I guess can be true, but it’s a different story when it comes to the things that are really important to you or things that you stress to him that you don’t want him to forget. Regardless of how good his memory is, if he knows something matters to you, he won’t forget it. This is a huge sign of respect.
- He doesn’t listen to you when you’re talking. We all hate being ignored or even half-listened to and if your guy respects you, he’ll give you his full attention when you’re speaking to him. Of course, there are some fair exceptions like if you interrupt him when he’s in the middle of something or when his focus is clearly split. However, when the two of you are having a conversation, he should be listening and caring about what’s coming out of your mouth.
- He spends your time together on his phone. This is one of the biggest signs of disrespect from a significant other. Sure, we all have jobs and commitments and that requires time on our phones, but when you are spending quality time together, he should not be looking at a screen. He should be focusing on you, your conversations, your time together. Whatever he has going on in his phone can wait a few hours.
- He disregards your emotions. If your guy tends to laugh it off when you’re angry or sad or to disregard any feelings that you’re having over something, it’s a big sign that he doesn’t respect you. He doesn’t have to understand why you feel the way that you feel, but he needs to care about your feelings. If he doesn’t, he just doesn’t respect you.
- He won’t delete his dating apps. If the two of you have defined your relationship as exclusive and agreed to not see anyone else, there is no reason he should still have profiles on datings apps. This is completely disrespectful to you because he shouldn’t even want to have them on his phone anymore. If he claims that he doesn’t use them anymore, why won’t he delete them? If he tells you that he scrolls through occasionally but never messages anyone, that is not okay. He shouldn’t be browsing apps for other girls – it’s totally disrespectful and you deserve better.
- He doesn’t take your dreams seriously. A partner who supports and respects you will always support the dreams that you have for your life. The right person for you will encourage you to keep working towards your goals and to persevere when the process gets hard. If your partner either doesn’t seem to care about the things that you want for your life or doesn’t take them seriously, that’s a problem. If he keeps telling you that your goals are impossible to achieve or that he just doesn’t think you’ll be able to accomplish them, he definitely doesn’t respect you. It’s time to kick him to the curb.
- He doesn’t let you know where he is or what he’s doing. It’s great to maintain your independence in a relationship and it’s fine if you and your partner want to go out and do things separately sometimes. However, out of respect, your partner should keep you in the loop of his plans. If he’s hitting up a bar after work with some friends, he should shoot you a quick text to let you know where he’ll be and what time he’ll be home. If he’s going to be gone for a day or two, he should keep you updated throughout his trip just so that you don’t worry about him. If he doesn’t feel the need to let you know these details, or worse, he complains or gets angry when you ask him to keep you updated, he isn’t being respectful to you.
- He shares personal information about you with his friends. There are certain things in relationships that are supposed to be kept private and within your relationship. Different couples may be comfortable with different things but if your guy is blabbing to his bros all about things like your intimate life together, the arguments the two of you have, private information you’ve shared with him about your family or anything of the sort, those details should be kept private.
- He doesn’t make compromises for you. Relationships are all about give and take. There are definitely things that we need to be willing to sacrifice for our partners and our relationships within reason. For example, if your man likes to party and before you got together, he would be out at all hours of the night but you’re not too keen on this behavior, he should respect you enough to make the sacrifice for your happiness. This doesn’t mean giving up everything he loves but rather compromising and maybe only going out every once in a while and taking you with him when he goes. If he refuses to meet you in the middle, he is not respecting you.
