9 Opportunities Waiting For You After Escaping A Toxic Relationship

The aftermath of any breakup can be a whirlwind of emotional ups and downs even if it was a healthy and relatively happy relationship you left behind. However, after breaking free from a toxic relationship, it’s easy to feel like you’ve just wasted a bunch of time and energy you’ll never get back. Luckily, there’s a long list of positive segments you can pull after getting out of such a bad situation.

  1. You discover what you’re really looking for in a relationship. A toxic relationship makes it abundantly clear what you don’t want in your next one. Although it may hurt a little to reminisce on your past relationship, it can be beneficial. Taking the time to reflect on a toxic relationship helps you better understand the qualities you’re looking for in a partner and what traits you want to avoid. Instead of using your breakup to kick yourself for making a mistake, transform it into an opportunity to really get clear on what you’re looking for in a life partner!
  2. You can come to terms with character traits that are dealbreakers for you. In a toxic relationship, you may have found yourself letting your partner get away with things that later turned out to be destructive. It’s important to be aware of characteristics and actions that are dealbreakers for you, as it helps you set boundaries and maintain what’s important to you. As you reflect on your past relationship, focus on what characteristics and actions you absolutely cannot abide in a partner. Being sure of what you want in a romantic partner can also help you feel more confident and sure of yourself.
  3. You can grow personally and emotionally. Perhaps the best thing you can take away from a toxic relationship is personal growth. Take the time to reflect on how a negative situation has taught you more about life and love. Use those lessons to grow in your personal life. Personal growth will only add more confidence and internal peace to your personality, which will set you up for a healthy, loving relationship in the future.
  4. You learn how to look for and identify red flags. The old saying “love is blind” is certainly true in most cases. And after finding yourself in a toxic relationship, you understand just how applicable this motto can be! One advantage of breaking free from a toxic relationship is learning to look for red flags as a new romance develops. Utilize the trauma you’ve experienced to catch warning signs in a partner much earlier than in the past. If red flags pop up in a future relationship, don’t be afraid of addressing them right away.
  5. You realize breakups aren’t that bad. If you’re freshly out of a relationship, you probably don’t agree with me on this one, but trust me, time heals all wounds. And after a certain amount of time, you’ll realize your breakup isn’t that bad in the grand scheme of things. A breakup certainly isn’t too bad if you’ve separated yourself from a toxic relationship. The amount of time it takes to heal from a relationship is different for everybody, and it’s okay to feel sadness even after ending things. But after recovering from the breakup, it’s easier to realize it wasn’t all that bad, primarily if you use a negative situation to implement positive change.
  6. You can discover how strong you really are. Give yourself credit for removing yourself from a relationship that really wasn’t all that good for your emotional and mental health. Again, as you’re working through a breakup, it can be tough to find happiness initially. Still, you must take the time to address just how strong you are for finding the power to do what’s best for you (because it’s not so easy sometimes).
  7. You can use your experience to help others. You’ve just recovered from a toxic relationship that was harming your personal growth; it’d be easy to lock all those experiences away and never address the relationship ever again. But, if you have a close group of friends and realize someone you care about is falling into a toxic relationship, it’s an excellent opportunity to save another person from going through pain. It may be a tough conversation to have, but explaining the emotional trauma a toxic relationship brings to someone you care about is worth the potential awkwardness.
  8. You can spend more time with your friends. After removing a romantic partner from your life, you’ll quickly realize you have a lot more free time. Spending time with friends is not only a great way to fill up your schedule, but it can also bring some much-needed happiness and laughter into your life!
  9. You have an opportunity to date yourself. Being single gets a bad rap sometimes. People assume if you’re not with another person, you’re bound to be lonely, depressed, and bored. That couldn’t be farther from the truth! Especially if you’re just getting out of a toxic relationship, being single can lead to restoration and self-discovery. Use your time alone to rediscover what brings you happiness and maybe try a new hobby you’ve always thought would be fun! Most times, when you get wrapped up in an abusive relationship, you lose sight of who you really are. Some time alone is an excellent opportunity to redefine who you are and who you want to be!
Kenzie Jordan's a published author, poet, and freelance writer whose love for writing continuously evolves the more she studies. Visit her personal website, www.mackenziejerks.com, to get a glimpse into her softer side or purchase her book.