9 Reasons Dating The Wrong Guy Was A Blessing In Disguise

9 Reasons Dating The Wrong Guy Was A Blessing In Disguise ©iStock/Portra

Let’s face it — you’ve probably dated plenty of losers in your life and you still wallow in regret about how your precious time was wasted with guys who didn’t deserve you. If you still feel the same way about your unfortunate experience, now’s the time you should realize how dating Mr. Wrong was actually a blessing in disguise. Here’s why:

  1. You know better for next time. The lessons you learn in relationships gone wrong are important and come in handy down the line. You learn not to ignore red flags, not to put up with his BS, and never to settle for less than you deserve. That’s pretty valuable knowledge.
  2. You need to know how stupid — er,  forgiving — you can be. Mr. Wrong reveals your hidden ability to tolerate pain and stupidity. This might not seem like a good thing, but recognizing your own tendency to turn a blind eye to his douchebag ways will hopefully allow you to set better boundaries in future relationships to avoid a repeat occurrence.
  3. You develop tolerance for difficult people. Not that you need it when you’re finally with the right guy, but it can come handy should people in his life are a pain to deal with (his mom’s overbearing and his friends have unrealistic expectations), so this is a positive.
  4. You can immediately tell if your next date is a total loser. You’ve pretty much memorized the loser personality and how he rolls. He doesn’t need to bother to open his mouth to say his pick-up line anymore in an attempt to impress you, because you’ve heard it all. You’re older and wiser, and you won’t even bother to go there anymore.
  5. You can pick out the good guys more quickly, too. You don’t think twice of making the first move because you can tell by the way he carries himself and how he speaks to you that he’s one of the good ones. What a relief!
  6. Your standards level up each time. Sometimes, it takes dating several jerks before you realize that you deserve so much more than utter BS. So when a hot guy comes along but then left his manners behind, you don’t struggle with walking away because you know by now that you deserve better.
  7. You know exactly what you’re looking for in a guy. Before, you were just looking for someone who was attractive and not a total dead beat, but now you’ve realized that it’s not that important if he’s a loser. You learned that ultimately, a guy’s good looks will pass, but his good heart won’t grow old, which is what really matters.
  8. You become the epitome of patience. Because patience is not only a virtue, it also helps you get what you really deserve when the timing is right. It might take a while, but you’ll find him eventually.
  9. You’ll know what to do when Mr. Right finally comes along. Of course, you’ll still make mistakes but you’ll do your best to make every second count in the relationship. After all, you’ve waited long enough for him and now that you’re together, you won’t let anything, or any loser, get in the way.
Maine Belonio is a twenty-something mom and writer who has a penchant for coffee, long distance running, Tolkien, Switchfoot, and Jesus. Find her broken, honest, and brave musings at mainebelonio.com.