9 Reasons To Stay Strong & Single When You Feel Lonely

9 Reasons To Stay Strong & Single When You Feel Lonely ©iStock/PeopleImages

Everyone goes through those rough patches when you’re so lonely you feel like you’re going to die if you don’t reach out and grab someone that very minute. It sucks. You have to stay strong and remember that you aren’t the only person dealing with loneliness, and know that you can overcome it. Don’t make bad decisions in moments of weakness — here’s why:

  1. It will pass. Like any feeling, loneliness will go away. You can help it dissipate by keeping busy with friends and family, engaging in activities you love and taking the time to help others. If you focus on the awesome aspects of your life, you won’t have time to worry about being single. You’ll be joyful and fulfilled because your life is meaningful with or without a partner.
  2. You should enjoy your single life while it lasts. Remember how much you missed certain aspects of flying solo when you were in your last relationship? Now that you have the opportunity, take advantage of all those awesome perks. There are so many benefits to being single. Live your life entirely the way you want without having to compromise for a partner while you can. Sooner or later you’ll have another person to consider in all your decisions.
  3. The grass is always greener. When you’re single, you miss everything about being in a relationship. When you’re with someone, you long for the freedom of your single days. You can either waste a lot of time doing all this, or you can appreciate where you are here and now. Live in the present and your entire existence will improve. Stop worrying about what you don’t have and focus on what you do.
  4. It’s better to stay single than to settle. In the weakness of your loneliness, you will want to take the next available option who’s willing to cuddle you at night. Don’t do it. You will end up dissatisfied and more alone than you were when you were by yourself. Never, ever settle for something less than what you deserve. It is always better to stay single and wait for what you truly need and want.
  5. Life is beautiful no matter what. Everyone has a lot to feel grateful for, whether that be friends, family, a great job, your health, or even just a pet who adores you. No life is without merit. If you feel that yours is somehow, seek to beautify it in ways you can control. You can’t make the perfect guy fall in your lap, but you can fill up your days with meaning and purpose.
  6. You have all the time in the world. You may not feel like it, but you do. Don’t stress about making sure you have the perfect partner by a certain age or keep yourself on some unrealistic timeline. That’s not how it works. If you relax, breathe, and recognize that you have to be ready to receive in order to get what you’re looking for, you’ll be much happier. Think positively about time instead of negatively, and stop grasping desperately. You can’t live that way, and if you’re always stressed you won’t attract what you desire.
  7. You don’t want to make regrettable decisions. You will never find the right person when your motivation is rooted in loneliness and desperation. You know this. You are well aware that you find what you want when you aren’t looking – because you are happy and busy and content in your own life, and that attracts people to you. Your sadness and depression and weary need for a man by your side does not get you the man you want. Not at all. Don’t pick someone out of haste, convenience, or impulse. You’ll wish you hadn’t.
  8. You only become stronger and more independent while alone. If you make a conscious choice to do so, that is. Your singledom is the best opportunity ever to grow and develop as a human being. A complete person attracts other strong, independent people. The best thing you will ever do for your love life is spending time on your own, working out your personal crap. When you’re ready, you will go out and conquer the dating world like none other – because you don’t actually need someone.
  9. You’ll be so glad you waited once you do find the right person. It’ll be worth it. You have to stay strong and believe that. You’ve had love before and you can have it again. You know what you want now, and you know that you can find it if you stay patient and open to receiving it. Live well and focus on what’s truly important and good love will find you. Don’t dwell on your single status and you won’t even notice you don’t have a man in your life until you meet the one who fits.
A former actress who has always loved the art of the written word, Amy is excited to be here sharing her stories! She just completed her first novel, and is also a contributor for Elite Daily, Dirty & Thirty, and Thought Catalog. Amy is the founder of What If Journey and can be found on Twitter @amyhorton18. You can also visit her website at amyhorton.net.