9 Signs He’s Looking For More Than Just A Hook-Up

It can be hard to tell whether or not the guy you’re seeing is looking for something serious or just sleeping with you to pass the time. Although you’re fine with a hook-up, you’re racking your brain to figure out if you should let your feelings take hold. Here are some signs he might be open to upgrading you to girlfriend status:

  1. He openly talks about wanting a girlfriend. When a guy tells you that he’s looking to settle down and get out of the game, that’s an obvious sign he’s not into the hook-up anymore. He wants a long-term partner and he’s not afraid to voice it.
  2. He wants to meet your friends and family. Any guy interested in meeting your friends and family has his sights on more than just sex. If he’s into meeting the people that matter to you, he’s looking towards the future, and his future has you in it.
  3. He’s genuinely interested in you as a person. A guy looking for a relationship will want to know more about you than just the curves of your body. He’ll ask you about your hopes, dreams, childhood and anything else it takes to get to know you — and he’ll legit care about the answer.
  4. He wants to see you, even if there’s no chance of sex. A guy looking for a relationship won’t be deterred from seeing you if he knows it won’t lead to sex. He wants to spend as much time with you as possible, regardless of whether or not you two will get down afterwards.
  5. He sends good morning and good night texts. A guy interested in a relationship will keep in contact with you throughout the day and will want to make sure you’re thinking about him as soon as you wake up, and right before you go to sleep. If he texts you constantly, he’s definitely interested in more than just a hook-up.
  6. His weekend plans always include you. If he starts scheduling his weekend plans around both your schedules and not just his, he’s the type of guy that’s looking for something serious. He wants to include you in almost everything he does and this just proves it.
  7. He plans day-dates with you. If a guy is looking to just hook up, chances are he’s going to be spending his days elsewhere. If he makes a lunch date with you or wants to spend a Saturday museum hopping, then he’s definitely looking for something more solid.
  8. He lets you into his head. When a guy tells you his goals, secrets or anything else about his personal life, he’s definitely not using you as a hook-up. Most guys will only let in certain people and when you’re one of them, there’s a good chance it’s because he wants to take your relationship further.
  9. He’s only ‘talking’ to you. If he drops all the other girls he’s talking to, it’s a surefire sign it’s because he sees you as a great investment of his time and energy. When he does this, he’s looking at you as girlfriend material and not just a fun Friday night.


Angelica Bottaro has a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Trent University and an Advanced Diploma in Journalism from Centennial College. She began her career as a freelance writer in 2014, racking up bylines in The Good Men Project, MakeWell, LymeTime, YouQueen, and more. She eventually shifted her focus and began writing about mental health, nutrition, and chronic disease for VeryWell Health.

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