9 Signs It’s Time To End Your FWB Relationship

There’s nothing wrong with casual sex with a friend with benefits or a hookup buddy, despite what the naysayers want you to believe. Lots of women have successful and fulfilling casual relationships that allow both parties to get what they want. While it’s entirely normal not to want to settle down, you also don’t want to be sleeping with a  complete jerk. So if your hookup buddy starts to turn into a player, then it’s time to ditch him.

  1. He Isn’t Considerate Of Your Schedule. If he insists on only seeing you on his schedule and only texts you during the day when he’s bored or at night when he’s looking for a booty call, don’t call him again. A guy who’s inconsiderate of your time isn’t worth even having casual sex with.
  2. He’s Always On His Phone When You’re Together. No matter your relationship status, when you’re together, he should be focused on you. It’s rude and disrespectful to be on your phone when you’re with someone, whether they’re just a friend or a FWB. So while you shouldn’t expect him to turn off his phone completely, he shouldn’t be texting and feeling you up at the same time.
  3. He Doesn’t care About Birth Control. Do not pass go! If he doesn’t bring up the topic of safe sex before you start, then stop right there. You’re an independent, foxy lady, so I’m sure you also carry protection, but he’s also a grown man. And grown men know to be prepared to have safe sex. So if he’s not offering and doesn’t ask, pull up your lacy undies and walk out the door.
  4. He Doesn’t Inquire About Your Orgasm Or What Makes You Feel Good. If the sex is lackluster and leaves you wanting more, then don’t call him again. If he hasn’t inquired about your orgasm or what you’re into, it’s a no-go. Seriously, it’s just rude. I realize that for women, an orgasm doesn’t necessarily make or break the sex, but he should at least be asking. It’s about both of your pleasures, not just his.
  5. He Doesn’t Communicate About What Makes Him Feel Good. Just as he should ask you about what makes you feel good, he should also talk about what makes him feel good. Talking about sex is a positive sign that he can actually communicate on intimate subjects.
  6. He Doesn’t Do Oral. While there are several opinions on this topic, I’m on the side of writing him off for being a selfish and inconsiderate ass if he’s not going down on you. If he’s not initiating, let him know and pay attention to his response. If he’s all “it’s weird” or “I don’t like the taste,” then he’s not deserving of you.
  7. He Doesn’t Kiss You After You Perform Oral Sex On Him. Again, there are lots of opinions on this but I’m on this is a major deal breaker side. Casual or not, if your hookup is weird about Frenching post-fellatio, either find out exactly why and discuss it or forget his number. Seriously, you just had his penis in your mouth, so he can deal with it and kiss you.
  8. He Doesn’t Let You Sleep Over. Okay, so you don’t have to stay the night if you don’t want to, but a good man will offer for you to sleepover and not drive home or hike to the subway at 3 AM. By skipping out on the sleepover, he’s basically saying he doesn’t care about you, bedtime cuddles, or warm embraces. Don’t call him again.
  9. He Doesn’t Offer Breakfast Or At Least Coffee In The morning. If you do sleep over, the guy should at least get you coffee or take you out to breakfast, especially if you spent the whole night with him. While this doesn’t mean he’s in love with you, it does say he has manners, and you should only be hooking up with gentlemen.
Michelle is a twenty-something gal experiencing New York City. You She's into trends, beauty, and fashion. You can check her out on Instagram @rotbotkohd.
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