9 Signs Your Relationship Is On A Collision Course

Whether you want to admit it or you notice the signs or not, no breakup happens out of the blue. There are always hints of what lies ahead. If these 10 things are happening to you, they’re huge red flags that your relationship is about to crash and burn.

  1. Your fights are nastier than usual. If your partner is suddenly calling you names during arguments or putting you down, those are huge signs that the respect is gone. They don’t care about showing you love and tenderness. They want to hurt you, and that’s not cool no matter how angry they are.
  2. They’re not pulling their weight. If you’re doing all the work and they’re just going with the flow or don’t seem to care about paying attention to you, they’ve already checked out. “Whatever you like,” is not a positive response when you ask them if they’re keen to go out to dinner.
  3. They’re forgetful. They might write it up as being super busy at work, but there’s no excuse for them completely “forgetting” your birthday or anniversary, especially if they were always the type to remember and do something nice for you. It’s clear that you’ve been downgraded on their list of priorities and they don’t think about you.
  4. You’re biting your tongue. If your partner keeps making you feel totally frustrated because of things they say or do and this is happening on a daily basis, a huge blow-up is surely going to happen if you don’t communicate with them about how you feel. They might also be irritating you more than usual because they want out of the relationship, so that’s something to bear in mind if you’re getting the gut feeling that they’re not interested in being with you anymore.
  5. They’re the king of one-word answers. Speaking less in your relationship is always a warning sign and it can mean that you’re about to hit a relationship dead-end. It can also be a slow-fade tactic on the part of your partner who’s hoping to sneak out of the relationship without causing a fuss. In the early stage of dating, those one-word answers might’ve seemed interesting and mysterious, but now they’re just plain annoying!
  6. They’re not available. You used to be able to reach them easily, like when you wanted to share good or bad news, but now it’s like you need a freaking rescue team to find them. WTF? They could just be trying to go AWOL so that they’re less available to you. Or they’re busy having fun with someone else. Ugh.
  7. They’re spending more time out there without you. You guys used to always make time for each other, but now it seems like whenever you want to do something special with your partner they’re heading out with their friends to the latest club opening/hike/concert and you’re getting left behind. They’re only with you when nothing else is going on.
  8. You’re more tired than usual. If your relationship is making you feel drained, that could be because you’re over it or you’ve been going the extra mile to try to make things work. Yup, you’re carrying the relationship load and it’s not fair. Hey, you could use another set of shoulders here! Sadly, your partner doesn’t even realize you’re battling with the load.
  9. Your partner is always surprising you. Sadly, these aren’t good surprises. Your partner’s taking you by surprise by how much they’re changing lately. They never used to love metal music and now that’s all they listen to. They never wanted to go to the sea and now they’re heading off to a beach holiday with their mates. What’s going on? When your partner starts to change right in front of your eyes, it could be that they’re exploring new aspects of themselves. It can make you feel like you’re dating a stranger. While change doesn’t have to be a bad thing, it is a red flag if one of their changes is not sharing these new parts of themselves with you.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.