9 Signs You’re Losing Interest In Your Partner And It’s Time To End It

Over time, the initial passionate spark in a relationship tends to fade. The excitement you felt at the beginning gets replaced with comfort, and while some couples thrive as time goes by, others start to lose interest in their relationship. If any of these nine signs sound familiar, your feelings for your partner have dwindled and it’s time to move on.

  1. You’ve Started To Ghost. You’re not prioritizing communication with your partner. You rarely answer their phone calls and you take half the day to respond to their texts. Maybe your partner is an over-communicator but you used to be okay with the constant chatter. Now you find it irritating. Even the simplest “how’s your day going?” makes you want to throw your phone against a wall. That means it’s more than a communication issue, you’re losing interest in your partner.
  2. You Don’t Enjoy Their Company. The butterflies you used to feel when you were together are gone. Now, the only thing you feel is a sense of uninterest. Even when you’re doing something fun, you can’t help but wish you were hanging out with one of your friends instead. It’s not that your partner bores you, you just don’t enjoy their company anymore. That’s not a good sign!
  3. You Don’t Keep Them Updated On Your Life. Does your S.O. know what’s going on at work? Do they know your best friend from college is getting married? Do they know anything about your day to day life? If you answered “no,” it’s not because they’re not listening — it’s because you’re not sharing like you used to. Your partner isn’t your go-to person for advice anymore. They’re not the first one you call with good news, bad news, or any news at all.
  4. They Don’t Excite You Anymore. You know you’re losing interest in your partner when you no longer feel the urge to jump their bones. Nothing about them turns you on anymore! They could be standing in front of you completely naked and you’d rather turn on Netflix than have sex. That’s a pretty clear sign something isn’t right. You should want to have sex with your partner. Maybe not every day, but the idea shouldn’t make you want to barf.
  5. Your Conversations Are Superficial. Gone are the days when you’d ask your partner thought-provoking questions about the future. Now, the only thing you talk about is the weather and what you want for dinner. It sounds like you’re treating your partner like a complete stranger. Instead of trying to grow your relationship, you’re backtracking the relationship.
  6. You’re Always Fighting. You might think fighting is a good sign because it shows you care about the relationship. Sometimes, yes, but other times it shows how annoying you find your partner. Does everything about you S.O. irritate you all of a sudden? If you’re constantly picking fights about their clothes and the way they eat, that’s a pretty clear sign you’re losing interest in your partner. You might also be trying to drive them away so they’ll end the relationship for you.
  7. You Don’t Have An Interest In Their Life. You don’t really care about your partner anymore. They could go to Vegas for the weekend with their friends and you wouldn’t ask a single question. In fact, you’d welcome the time to yourself. That’s a pretty clear sign you’ve lost interest. While you shouldn’t control your S.O.’s every move, you should care about what they do. But you don’t.
  8. You’re Keeping Yourself Way Too Busy. You’ve packed your schedule with a ton of hobbies and happy hours with friends to keep yourself busy. You might not realize it, but that could be because you’re avoiding your partner. Instead of saying, “I don’t want to see you,” you’re using your crochet class as an excuse for why you’re too busy to hang out.
  9. Your Sexual Thoughts Go Elsewhere. Maybe you and your partner have a great relationship filled with respect and love. But you’ve started to wonder what else might be out there. Or rather, who else might be out there. There’s nothing wrong with finding someone other than your partner attractive. But if you’re constantly having sexual thoughts about an ex-boyfriend or co-worker, you might be losing interest in your current relationship —and you should call it quits before you do something you could potentially regret.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.