9 Signs You’ve Finally Met Your Soulmate

When you meet someone you click with and things are going well, it’s tempting to believe that this might be it, that you might finally have met your soulmate. Is your partner really “The One”? If so, here’s how you’ll know.

  1. They’re willfully consistent. You don’t have to be on their case to text you back, to make plans, or to introduce you to their friends—they do it all on their own because they care about you and they want to. It’s a massive relief; you’re so used to having to hound dates to be consistent, so the fact that this person is all on their own is pretty mind-blowing.
  2. They care about the minor details. While past partners tended to tune you out when you were ranting about Judy in accounting at work or complaining about how your best friend canceled your girls night to go out with some loser, this person is all ears. They care about what you’re saying, even the little, seemingly inconsequential details, and they actually commit it to memory.
  3. They give you no reason to be suspicious, insecure, or distrustful. You don’t have to worry that they’re cheating, talking to other people behind your back, or otherwise being dishonest. They don’t hide their phone from you or get weird when you ask them a question about their work wife. They’re upfront and frank about everything, helping you to feel secure in your relationship. It’s amazing.
  4. They have their act together. This might not seem like it’s important in determining whether you’ve found your soulmate, but you’re a smart, successful, badass woman. How could you be in a relationship with someone who isn’t on the same level? This person shares your ambition and your work ethic, which means you can work on building an amazing life together. It’s pretty great.
  5. They just “get” you without you having to explain yourself. This doesn’t need much explanation. You’re free to be your weird self with them and you don’t have to worry that they won’t “get” it or you—they do because they’re just as zany and strange. It’s what makes your connection so dynamic and fun. With them, you’re free to get crazy and it feels great.
  6. They give you space to breathe. They’re not attached to you 24/7 and they don’t need to know what you’re up to when you’re not together. They not only respect the fact that you have your own life, they totally appreciate the importance of doing your own thing as individuals so that you can be more fulfilled and therefore better partners together.
  7. They push you to be your best self. While they think you’re amazing just as you are, they’re your number one cheerleader when it comes to your short and long-term goals. They know you can do anything you set your mind to, so no matter how big your dreams are, they believe you can achieve them 100% and they’ll be right there by your side to help you in any way they can.
  8. The things you dislike about yourself are the ones they love the most. Where you see flaws, they see beauty and uniqueness. All the little things you dislike about yourself are things they appreciate as being particular to you. It feels amazing to be appreciated and loved so completely, and that’s a major perk of having met your soulmate.


Jennifer has been the managing editor of Bolde since its launch in 2014. Before that, she was the founding editor of HelloGiggles and also worked as an entertainment writer for Bustle and Digital Spy. Her work has been published in Bon Appetit, Decider, Vanity Fair, The New York TImes, and many more.