9 Silver Linings Of Being Single AF

9 Silver Linings Of Being Single AF ©iStock/CoffeeandMilk

It’s easy to get caught up on the crappy parts of the single life, but what about the good stuff? There are serious downsides to being in a relationship, and there are definite upsides to being single AF — you just have to look for the silver linings…

  1. You’re free. You don’t have to bother checking in with anyone 24/7. Your plans are all your own with no +1 to drag you down. You can live your own damn life without having to consider someone else every step of the way. Doesn’t it feel good?
  2. You don’t have to make an effort. Relationships are hard, but lucky for you, you have no relationship to work at. All that extra time and attention can be exhausting, so be glad you can dedicate your time and energy to more important things like your career and your friendships (and binge watching shows on Netflix).
  3. You’re in charge of your own damn life. Whatever you do with your life is your own damn business. Take a new job or move to a new city and chase your dreams, because thankfully, you don’t have a boyfriend to hold you back.
  4. You don’t have to deal with mixed signals. Relationships can be so much drama. Who has time for all the ups, downs and exhausting emotions of figuring out exactly what you are to each other? When you’re living the single life, all that confusion is taken out of the equation, because you’re just living life for you.
  5. You’re not constantly fighting. You know those couples that fight more than they have sex? Thank God you don’t have to put up with that. You get to come home every night and relax with your own thoughts rather than worrying about what someone else is thinking and feeling.
  6. You get to flirt with whoever you want. And you don’t have to answer to anybody about it. You’re free to look and touch any man you desire (well, as long as he agrees). Do you know how many taken women miss the ability to flirt freely? Live it up while you still can, because someday, you might just find yourself missing it.
  7. You get to be selfish. There’s no denying it — girls in relationships have to make some serious sacrifices, but since you’re single AF, you don’t ever have to compromise. You don’t have to settle for watching football when you really want to binge Grey’s Anatomy. You can do whatever you want whenever you want because the only person you answer to is you.
  8. You’re not headed for a breakup/divorce. You didn’t settle for Mr. Wrong and you’re better off for it. Wouldn’t you rather be single and free than be tied down to someone who makes you miserable? That answer had better be yes. If it’s not, remember that you shouldn’t want to be with just anyone — you should want to be with someone, the one, and you shouldn’t settle for anything less.
  9. You don’t owe anybody anything. There isn’t a man paying your bills or making you happy. You create your own happiness and make your own damn money. You’re a truly independent woman who doesn’t need a ring on her finger to survive in this dog eat dog world.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.