9 Things To Text A Guy You Like To Pique His Interest In You

Trying to think of the right text to send a guy you like can leave your brain sore. Luckily, there a few fool-proof messages that are likely to help you get the conversation rolling. And if you can work up the courage to message him first, you’re halfway there. Here’s what you should send him to not only pique his interest in you but perhaps encourage him to ask you out on a real date.

  1. Follow up on a conversation you had in person. Texting someone you like can be daunting. It’s less scary if you follow up on a conversation you were having in person. That way, you’ll know that they’re interested in what you’re going to talk about. Also, it won’t feel like you’re randomly texting them out of the blue. You don’t have to put yourself out there quite as much! If you were talking about how much you both love dogs, for example, you could send a picture of your dog doing something cute to get the conversation going.
  2. Use social media as a conversation starter. Social media can be a great conversation starter. Spend some time looking at a guy’s profile and you’ll see a sea of opportunities. If he checked in at a restaurant, text him and say you’ve been meaning to try that place. Or tell him that his status made you laugh. If nothing else comes to mind, you can simply say that you loved his post. People who put themselves out there on social media generally don’t mind having their activity acknowledged, so it’s not as daunting to send a message out of nowhere.
  3. Check on him after big events. Checking in with a guy after some significant event is not only a good conversation starter. It can also be a brilliant way to show that you care about him. If he was sitting for an exam, going to a job interview, attending a family wedding, or anything else, just text him and ask how it went. It’ll show that you were paying attention when he told you about the event in the first place. Plus, it shows that you’re thinking about him.
  4. Bring up your common interests. If you have any common interests with the guy you like, definitely bring those up. For example, if you’re both obsessed with the same TV show, text to ask if he saw the latest episode. Or if you follow the same sports team, text him after the game to see what he thought. Having interests in common makes it much easier to get to know each other and build a bond. Also, it’ll be easy and natural for him to respond to messages where he’s actually interested in the topic.
  5. Send a funny meme or article. Laughter is key as you build a relationship with someone you like. It really depends on how well you know him, but try sending a funny meme or amusing article. If you know him well enough, it won’t feel so random. He might then send you funny memes in return when he comes across them. You’ll also have something to laugh about when you see each other in person.
  6. Reference a personal joke. You can never have too many personal jokes! Funny memes and articles will work even better if they relate to a personal joke that you share with the guy you like. For example, if you both joke about how you’ll never afford to buy a house because of a crazy property market, send a meme that makes fun of this. Or tell him about an experience that relates to the joke. As long as it’s a joke that you both understand and relate to, the conversation should flow easily after that.
  7. Make plans with him. Making plans with someone you like can be very scary in person or even over the phone. Doing it over text can still be a little anxiety-inducing, but there’s a little less pressure. Women’s Health advises keeping it vague. Rather than asking if he’d like to go on a date with you at this place and this time, suggest hanging out when he’s free. You’ll get an idea of how he feels by the way he responds. If he likes you back, he’ll want to set some plans in concrete.
  8. Include him in a group message. If you’re too nervous to text the guy you like directly, try including him in a group message. For example, if you work with him, you could start a group message with a few colleagues. Or if you study together, start a chat with a few classmates. This allows you to communicate with him and subtly invites him to text you further if he likes.
  9. Compliment him. Depending on the stage of your relationship, you can always text him a compliment. It might come on a little strong to tell him that he has nice eyes if you’ve met him once. But if you’ve just seen him, you could send him a quick text saying you loved his haircut or what he was wearing. If you can relate it to a recent time, like if you just saw him or he just posted a photo of himself on Instagram, it will feel less random and awkward.
Vanessa Locampo is an Aussie writer who’s equally obsessed with YA fiction and pasta. Her time is divided between writing all the things, reading all the things, listening to Queen, and bopping her cat on the nose. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing and has written for sites including Hotsprings.co and Discovering Montana, and currently works as an editor at Glam. You can keep up with her on Instagram @vanessaellewrites.