As a strong, independent woman, you know your worth and you’re not about to settle for someone who doesn’t recognize and respect it. That’s why you’d never put up with these 12 things from a guy.
- Being Treated Like His MomĀ It’s not your job to wake him up in the morning, wash his clothes, bring him coffee at work, or remind him when his doctor appointments are. Youāre not his servant and youāre sure as hell not his mom. You donāt want to be with a guy whoās clearly looking for a mother type girlfriend, what kind of freaky nonsense is that?!
- BS ExcusesĀ Sometimes life can get in the way of plans. You know that and you have no problem being canceled on every so often, but the reason for those cancellations should be valid. His car broke down, he had to pick his little brother up from school, or he had to work lateāthese kind of excuses are fine…in moderation. If every other day heās hitting you with an āI have to work lateā text, thereās a problem and you canāt/wonāt accept it.
- Being Manipulated Strong women are secure women. You know who you are and you know how you want to be treated, and being manipulated isnāt an option! A guy who uses, controls, and persuades you to do things youād never in a million years do isnāt a guy youāre interested in getting to know in any way.
- Cheating Cheating isnāt a dealbreaker for everyone but it is for you. You donāt care why he cheated, where he cheated, or who he cheated with. You donāt even care if it was emotional or physical cheating. If he was unfaithful, even if it was just a couple of flirty texts, youāre done. Why would you give all your time and attention to a guy whoās glancing elsewhere?
- Being Way Too Obsessed With Sex Sex is an important part of a relationship and you have no problem trying new and kinky things in between the sheets. However, youāre a grown woman who has other things on her mind than getting freaky 24/7 and you want a guy whoās in a similar position. Sex shouldnāt be the extent of his conversation. If it is, heās just a teenager trapped in a late 20-something’s body. NEXT.
- Not Being SupportedĀ Sure, youāre a strong woman, but that doesnāt mean you donāt need to be supported. You want to be able to discuss your goals with your significant other and if all he can do is call out your dreams for ānot being realistic,ā whatās the point of him?
- JealousyĀ Youāre too independent to deal with a guy whoās too insecure to trust you to go out with your girlfriends on a Friday night. There are some situations where itās okay to be a little jealous (like when youāre gyrating on a guy while your boyfriend is a mere foot away) but being jealous and acting jealous are two completely different things. If heās constantly checking up on you whenever heās not with you, thereās an issue there, and you donāt have time for it.
- Being DisrespectedĀ Disrespect can come in many forms. It doesnāt just have to be someone yelling at you or making fun of your appearance. A boyfriend could definitely be judgmental but he could also talk down to you, belittle your opinions, and even make comments on how he wishes you were ādifferent.ā If heās not treating you the way heād like to be treated, heās not the one for you.
- LyingĀ Youāre an honest person. Some might even say youāre too honest, but whatever, thatās who you are and thatās what youāre looking for in a partner. You donāt want a guy whoās too shy, scared, or insecure to speak his truth. He should be able to tell you heās hanging out with his guy friends after workāand he’d better let you know if he accidentally ran into his ex-girlfriend at a coffee shop. For you, omitting the truth is just as bad as straight up lying.
- Being Way Too NegativeĀ Everyone has bad days. You get that, but you wonāt tolerate a guy who has more bad days than good days. You donāt want someone whoās constantly dwelling on the negative aspect of EVERY SINGLE THING. Youāre trying to live your best life and negative energy isnāt needed.
- Wanting Too Much ControlĀ Everyone should be equal in a relationship, which isnāt always easy for you because you naturally like having the power. Still, you do your best to keep things neutral, which is why you really really really canāt deal with a guy who wants all the power! Realistically, thereās only room for one control freak in a relationship and thatās going to be you. Duh.
- Not Being ValuedĀ Life is complicated enough and you donāt want your relationship to be too. You want a guy whoās going to text you when he says he is, show up when he says heās going to show up, and be there for you when he says heās going to be there for you! If he canāt do that, then heās a boy who hasnāt grown up enough to date a strong woman like you.
