Does he love me? This question is probably running through your mind if you’ve been dating a guy for a while now and you’re wondering where things are going. While the answer to this question should be more obvious rather than something you’re wracking your brain over day and night, sometimes before those three little words are said aloud, you need to read the signs. Ask yourself these questions to know without a doubt where he stands.
- Does he always seem in awe of you? If you want to know if he loves you, pay attention to his body language when you’re together. Does he always look at you with eyes that are full of wonder? Does he find it hard to break eye contact with you? Do you sometimes catch him looking at you from across a crowded room? If he always seems in awe of you, that’s a pretty good sign.
- Is he protective of you? You can take care of yourself and he knows it, but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to look after you and make sure you’re safe, loved, and happy. You know he loves you when he goes out of his way to make sure you’re okay on a daily basis. It’s such an incredible feeling.
- Does he prioritize time together even when he’s busy? Everyone gets busy from time to time and you don’t expect him to be with you 24/7, but it’s still nice to know that you’re a priority in his life and that no matter what he has going on, he still makes time for you. You know he loves you when being with you is high on to-do list.
- Has he opened up to you about things he hasn’t told anyone else? It takes time for trust to develop between couples, so when you finally get to a place where you can open up to each other about things you haven’t told anyone else, there’s something real between you. Sharing your experiences, insecurities, and events in your life that are tough to talk about will ultimately bring you closer together, and being willing to do so means he loves you (and vice versa).
- Does he show you affection outside the bedroom? A lot of guys can have sex without emotion behind it, but what you want is someone who is just as affectionate with you outside the bedroom as he is when you’re in it. If he holds your hand, kisses you, pulls you close, or generally shows you physical affection on a daily basis, that’s a pretty good sign that his feelings for you are serious.
- Is he consistent? Guys who don’t care all that much about you can easily blow hot and cold. They say one thing and do another and you never know what they’re thinking or where they stand. However, you know this guy loves you when he proves himself to be reliable, consistent, and a man of his word.
- Does he try to get to know you on a deeper level? Surface-level chat is fine, especially early on, but you can’t build a deep bond with someone without really getting to know them. That means asking questions about your life before you met, what you want in the future, and other topics that you’d tend to avoid on the first few dates. If he really wants to get to know everything about you, it’s because he really cares.
- Does he show you off when you go out together? When you’re out together, he’s always happy to show you off to his friends, colleagues, and even personal strangers. He’s proud to be with you and he wants the world to know it. He
- Has he changed parts of his life to better accommodate you? It’s pretty clear he loves you when his life looks a whole lot different than when you met. That’s because he’s adjusted for being in a relationship and having a partner he wants to integrate fully into his day to day. Maybe he’s cleared a few drawers in his dresser for you to leave your stuff or he’s stopped going to happy hour quite so often so that you guys can hang out instead.
- Does he go out of his way to make your life easier/better? In addition to protecting you, a guy who loves you will go the extra mile to make sure your life is as good as it can be. Again, this isn’t about you being incomplete without him or incapable of making your own happiness. You’re killing it in that department, no doubt about that. However, he really wants to make sure he’s doing everything in his power to make your life even better.
- Does he remember the little things you tell him? That means he’s listening because he cares about what you’re saying. It also means that you’re important enough in his life that he wants to commit what you’re saying to memory. How sweet is that?
